Can someone define the terms "first", "second".. cousins? quite confused.
First Cousin : A child of your aunt or uncle
Second Cousin: A child of a parent's first cousin
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
I just think that the warmth you get while growing up from extended family encourages a sibling-like feeling between first cousins. We should not corrupt that by getting them married. If the cousins haven't really chilled with each other growing up then it's a different story I guess.
I just think that the warmth you get while growing up from extended family encourages a sibling-like feeling between first cousins. We should not corrupt that by getting them married. If the cousins haven't really chilled with each other growing up then it's a different story I guess.
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
I treat my cousins like my brothers...never looked at them like that.
I treat my cousins like my brothers...never looked at them like that.
egjactly my point, there is nothing wrong in cousin marriage but if you see them as you sister then how can you marry her. At the end of the day its personal choice, I had a friend who thru out openly condemned cousin marriage and now 5 yrs later he had a love marriage with his maamu kee betee. May Allah bless them with a happy married life.
First Cousin : A child of your aunt or uncle
Second Cousin: A child of a parent's first cousin
Or to make it more clear,
First Cousin: A child of a parent's sibling.
Second Cousin: A child of a parent's first cousin.
The terms uncle and aunt could also be applied to parents' cousins.
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
TG is right about the amount of intermarriage within families...that would be a concern to me. But otherwise I see nothing wrong with it, there are a few cousin marriages in our family and all is fine. Its really no one elses business if you're married to a cousin.
The reason that its looked down upon in US is I think because of the very poor people in the deep south and Appalachia who have been interbreeding for generations and have an extremely high rate of birth defects. As do the Askinazi Jews who are all but infertile and when they do manage to reproduce, theres a high probability of trouble.
If you have a concern, best thing is to visit a Genetic Counsellor. they can take the mystery out of it all and give you exact odds of producing known genetic abnormalities. One that is attributed to Pakistanis more than other races is Thalessemia which can be a really nasty one but needs to have both parents with that particular gene trait. Anyway, if its a concern, visit the doc so that you know beforehand what your odds are. Or not...sometimes people want to marry anyway and thats fine too.
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
Somewhere in Hadith I read it is encouraged to marry outside the family.
Somewhere in Hadith I read it is encouraged to marry outside the family.
Where? Care to post a link? As per Islamic point of view, it is 100% okay to marry cousins or even children of your father's other wife or wives. Like, 4 wives thing, this is looked down by many ignorant ppl, but there's nothing wrong with it. Absolutely fine.
Where? Care to post a link? As per Islamic point of view, it is 100% okay to marry cousins or even children of your father's other wife or wives. Like, 4 wives thing, this is looked down by many ignorant ppl, but there's nothing wrong with it. Absolutely fine.
i dont care about cousin marrying eachother as my parents are cousins...but buddy,what u said in red... that is like marrying your sister/brother ... and thats absolutely ridiculous!. a child of ur father's other wife is your brother/sister.
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
^It's not like it, it IS it! If you can't marry someone who's been nursed by the same person as you, how can you marry a half-sibling?!?!?
Messed up.
And there is enough in the Quran to suggest that polygamy is not alllowed, but I will not get into that in this thread. It's been posted before, I'm sure.
i dont care about cousin marrying eachother as my parents are cousins...but buddy,what u said in red... that is like marrying your sister/brother ... and thats absolutely ridiculous!. a child of ur father's other wife is your brother/sister.
None of my family is like what I wrote in red but when we were studying in the school, we were taught that unless you have the same mother, it's okay to marry. I will check online to see if I am right or wrong.
Where? Care to post a link? As per Islamic point of view, it is 100% okay to marry cousins or even children of your father's other wife or wives. Like, 4 wives thing, this is looked down by many ignorant ppl, but there's nothing wrong with it. Absolutely fine.
thats a height of ignorance ........ to say the least
None of my family is like what I wrote in red but when we were studying in the school, we were taught that unless you have the same mother, it's okay to marry. I will check online to see if I am right or wrong.
And having the same father is ok?
Re: Nothing wrong with cousin marriages
Here is another thread on cousin marriages. May be these two threads should be merged.
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-relationships/295919-1st-cousins-gettin-married.html
Where? Care to post a link? As per Islamic point of view, it is 100% okay to marry cousins or even children of your father's other wife or wives. Like, 4 wives thing, this is looked down by many ignorant ppl, but there's nothing wrong with it. Absolutely fine.
Do you mean a half-siblings (the same father but different mothers) or step-siblings (the woman has children from her previous marriage)?
Do you mean a half-siblings (the same father but different mothers) or step-siblings (the woman has children from her previous marriage)?
I think the meaning here is the children of a step mother from her previous marriage, but then I suppose children from a stepfather's previous marriage are okay too.
the other potential view is ridiculous to say the least
Re: 1st cousins gettin married!!
I thought cousin marriages were a last resort - religously speaking?
If the marriage is so the children dont get to marry outside the family then its wrong. My dad was telling me once that in some villages when there isnt a young man in the family for marriage, families get the girl married to the Quran. This is to keep the jaydaat/zameen/wealth within the family. It sounds wrong to me though...does it happen? Anyone ever heard of this?
Re: 1st cousins gettin married!!
isn’t it nice to re-open old threads..
I thought cousin marriages were a last resort - religously speaking?
If the marriage is so the children dont get to marry outside the family then its wrong. My dad was telling me once that in some villages when there isnt a young man in the family for marriage, families get the girl married to the Quran. This is to keep the jaydaat/zameen/wealth within the family. It sounds wrong to me though...does it happen? Anyone ever heard of this?
Wow, I never heard of that...but its kinda the same concept as being a Nun!