Excuse me. I NEVER called your argument "not logical." You can make your point; others can make theirs. That is the purpose of a discussion forum. Not everyone can or has to agree with everyone else.
It was your post in very poor taste- that thankfully now has been removed- to my respectful rejoinder (read above) that prompted me to write that it is better to logically defend an argument than to stoop to personal attacks.
Don’t make it personal. Really.
Right you didn't call it logical either. I've stated my points over and over again, and I'm getting tired of repeating myself. This is what i've seen in many marriages, from people with different socio-economic statuses. It's about the green card, and that's the end of that.
discussing logically and "Practically"-Its not that these girls and their parents are blind.If an international student is getting something,then the girl is also getting something in return.If this guy is getting to stay here ,she is also getting security and a hard working guy.Its not a one way traffic.If the guy's bargaining power is low cause he is living alone in a distant land,short on money then may be the girl is a high school graduate or a divorcee or other short comings.Trust me,in the end it almost works out grt for every one involved in their preceived scenario.....!
She's getting something yes, a husband and security but that seems better than a husband who's getting a green card. A marriage based on something so little, in my sense has no future.
She's getting something yes, a husband and security but that seems better than a husband who's getting a green card. A marriage based on something so little, in my sense has no future.
I think at the end of the day it depends on the couple who gets the "best" of the relationship.There is always some competition going.I guess the guy played his cards really well...!
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
tons of relationships have underlying motives. this isn't the first or the last time it's going to happen. if you constantly question those motives and refuse to trust anyone, you're going to end up alone. life is always about taking chances. she took a chance and hopefully she's happy.
call it naivety or call it bravery, but i wish i could say i've ever been as sure about something as she seems to be about her relationship.
tons of relationships have underlying motives. this isn't the first or the last time it's going to happen. if you constantly question those motives and refuse to trust anyone, you're going to end up alone. life is always about taking chances. she took a chance and hopefully she's happy.
I know pakistani guys. I have talked to and gotten rishtas from many of them. Including my own cousins, to friends of my brothers. They're all the same. They'd do anything for going overseas. It's disgusting how desperate they are when it comes to going to the US, UK, or in this case NZ. She is 18! And trust me, at that age girls can believe anyone that shows an ounce of sympathy towards them. He took ADVANTAGE of her age and immaturity level and she married her. HE got what he wanted and she got someone to talk to/make her feel beautiful.
U know many people may want to leave pakistan but that doesn't mean all do. It is like saying that since many terrorists are muslims, all muslims must be terrorists. The groom seems to b very lucky but v do not know all the facts. the girl might b 18 or made a very unusual decision but that does not guarantee that she is immature or the groom is taking advantage of her.
U know many people may want to leave pakistan but that doesn't mean all do. It is like saying that since many terrorists are muslims, all muslims must be terrorists. The groom seems to b very lucky but v do not know all the facts. the girl might b 18 or made a very unusual decision but that does not guarantee that she is immature or the groom is taking advantage of her.
yes exactly, something that is done out of the norm should not be seen as immature
And just because many people want to/do get out of pakistan via marriage does not mean that's the intention of every man.
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
S Korean court backs Pakistani homosexual’s asylum bid Monday, January 04, 2010
SEOUL: A South Korean court ruled in favour of a Pakistani homosexual who sought refugee status on the basis that he faced persecution back home, the Yonhap news agency reported on Sunday. The Seoul Administrative Court overturned a decision by the justice ministry to deny refugee status to the man, whose name and age were withheld. The court cited a “high likelihood that the plaintiff will be subject to persecution” if repatriated to Pakistan, where homosexuality is prohibited. The man applied for refugee status citing his sexual orientation last year. afp
tons of relationships have underlying motives. this isn't the first or the last time it's going to happen. if you constantly question those motives and refuse to trust anyone, you're going to end up alone. life is always about taking chances. she took a chance and hopefully she's happy.
call it naivety or call it bravery, but i wish i could say i've ever been as sure about something as she seems to be about her relationship.
Absolutely. Every marriage is a gamble. Too often we only hear the stories where things dont work out. This story is a pleasant surprise and so are your posts.
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
Well…hopefully they will be happy…I am happy to see that something new like that worked out…
And all you Paki boys…ur all very cute…but also very naughty…I guess all men are like that…but for some reason you dudes have made a reputation for urself!!!
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
there was this geo news report, where one pakistani married an american gori. after the marriage he send her to his pind, where she was living with her in-laws doing all the chores that a pind girl does. she also learnt punjabi.
it was really an fascinating story. cuz even we pakistani girls usually brought up in an environment of 3-4 maids available 24-7.
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
i have seen desi girls from pind live in california, and learn english, and wear hollywood hipster clothes. whats the big deal, zoobia.. are goris somehow better commodities than brown-butts?
