Re: Were you ready for marriage when you got married?
Yes I was ready when I got married. I obviously used to get sad sometimes about leaving my family and quitting my job and moving far away. The sadness was mainly caused by uncertainty and anxiety about how unpredictable my future was. But I made the decision with my brain as well as my heart. I think many women just go with what their heart tells them (“He’s good looking and rich, I should marry him”. Or “I am having a bad feeling about this, but I don’t want to disappoint my parents”).
At this crucial time, think with your brain and don’t give a crap about emotions. Be selfish. Think about your future and whether you’ll be happy or not. Stop thinking about other people’s feelings for a moment, they’ll be out of the picture in a few years and you have to spend the rest of your life with this man. Also, if you end up having kids, their lives and personalities are also affected when their parents are in an unhappy marriage.
Yes I was ready when I got married. Yes I’m happily married. No, I don’t miss my single life because I didn’t have any friends and my parents wouldn’t let me stay out late with even my sister or my cousins. My married life is like many people’s single life. We travel a lot and we’re best friends.
The most important thing is that you get along with your husband. If you two have a strong bond, you’ll get through everything. And there’s no rule out there that your marriage needs to be boring. Go out and have fun, go hiking, eat street food, play videogames together. Who’s stopping you from making your married life even better than your single life?
Mash Allah. I’m so happy for you. May Allah bless you both.