Re: Zahra Haiders Article about relationships in Pakistan
I wonder if you’re trolling…if you’re sitting behind the screen getting a kick out of making vapid comments.
Many people “differ from the norm”…and will voice their opinion with greater confidence than Ms. Haider…and thus open dialog…but is that a good enough reason to “like” them…or to be “glad” that they’re “doing what they want”…? If Ms. Haider had spoken up about her sexual escapades with 1 or 2 people…it would be one thing…but for a teen to have slept with 12 people makes her an extreme case. You’re defending an outlier. Plenty of outliers out there…Donald Trump…Satanists…you name it…lol. Being bold and outspoken will always open up dialog…but is that reason enough to be “glad” that they opened their mouths?
Let’s talk about “different from the norm.” According to you, North American society is overall desensitized so that would make the Desis who have managed to avoid premarital sex the outliers…no? Considering that they managed to avoid committing zina in the midst of the temptations around them …would make them “different from the norm”…no? It would place them on the other end of the spectrum…so when this group of people openly speaks out against promiscuity…and mind you they are not condemning the fornicators to the fiery depths of hell…but are intelligently discussing the societal consequences…somehow that doesn’t “gladden” you at all…not nearly as much as a more emotional but vapid type of confident outspokenness…and ofsos ki baat hai.
If outliers appeal to you, then there are more positive examples to “gladden” your heart with, Terebina. What about Edhi, for instance? How about the folks who have made a more positive difference with their mouths and limbs as opposed to the ones using mainly their genitals for fame? You said that there are bigger fish to fry…more pressing issues to worry about such as education. What are YOU doing for Pakistan’s education dilemma? See, this is called deflection. Rather than intelligently address the issue being discussed at hand…you are deflecting attention to education. People tend to do that. You speak of a sin like zina…and they’ll talk about gossip and murder. Why not focus on the topic at hand. Education is a fundamental issue…but one’s health…and the institution of marriage and family …are also very fundamental and they are at risk when zina becomes rampant and accepted and even lauded. Jahan tak “education” ki baat hai…to parhi likhi to Zehra Haider…bhi hai…she knows the consequences of promiscuity…but she doesn’t care…and I don’t find that variety of boldness to be impressive. It’s entertaining, it definitely opens up dialog ad evident from this thread, but it’s nothing impressive. If your own daughter or loved one was to emulate Zehra’s lifestyle…how “glad” would you truly be I wonder.