After reading this does it not seem like you are doomed…we have all had crushes or to some extent been in love… What are your views on this.
NOTE: Don’t start a west versus pakistan issue.
Youth, Sex and Marriage
Islam as a way of life abhors any sexual act or any
behaviour having sexual overtones that is not between
duly wedded spouses . It is extremely sensitive about
this issue and greatly emphasizes maintenance of
purity by Muslims in their character, behaviour, gaze,
words and thoughts. Lest the Islamic standard of
purity in this respect slips from our minds, let us
remind ourselves that when it comes to a member of the
opposite sex to whom one is not married or getting
married, not to speak of flirtation or any kind or
level of sexual activity, a Muslim is not even allowed
to:
- Stare, exchange lustful eye contact or even look
intentionally after initial inadvertent look;
*Chat or exchange correspondence or emails where the
text or tone carries any sexual overtones or some
sexual consideration is intended;
*Spend time together just for fun;
*Fantasize or lustfully think about a person.
Following are some references supporting the above
statements:
*“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and
protect their private parts, that is a purer demeanour
for them. Verily Allaah is well aware of what they do.
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and
to protect their private parts.” (An-Noor 24:31-32)
*“Do not talk in a soft voice lest a man with a
diseased heart (inclined to un-Islamic behaviour)
starts to harbour evil desires.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:32)
*“O Ali! Do not follow up with another look after the
(inadvertent) first look. The first is forgiven but
not the second.” (Ahmad, Tirmidzee, Aboo Dawood).
*"The Prophet was asked about sudden, unintentional
glance. He said, “move your glance away.” (Muslim,
Ahmad, Tirmidzee, Aboo Dawood)
*“The fornication of the eyes is the sight (to gaze
at a person of opposite sex), the fornication of the
tongue is the talk, and the heart (inner self) lusts
and desires and the private parts testify all this or
deny it.” (Aboo Hurayrah, Bukhaari)
*“Eyes fornicate and their fornication is look, ears’
fornication is listening, tongue’s fornication is
talking, hands’ fornication is touching and feet’s
fornication is walking. The heart lusts and desires
and the private parts either confirm it or deny it.”
(Muslim)
*“Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last day, he
should not be alone with a woman without the presence
of a Mahram . Otherwise, the third with them will be
Shaytaan.” (Ahmad)
*“No man has the right to be in the privacy with a
woman who is not lawful for him. Satan is their third
party unless there is a Mahram.” (Ahmad)
*Ibn Abbaas related that the messenger of Allaah
said, “None of you should meet a women alone unless
she is accompanied by a Mahram”. (Bukhaari, Muslim)
*Umar reported that Rasoolullaah said, “When a man is
alone with a women, the Shaytaan becomes the third.”
(Tirmidzee)
