I know this comment is not directed at me, but I’m seriously confused at these statements. What does this have anything to do with the topic, for one? Secondly, who are you to say that open confrontation is not a good thing? Sometimes, it is necessary. Depends on the situation. I think you’re hell bent on ridiculing feminism, when, as sweetdreams says, if it were not for feminism you would not be posting on this forum, and from what you tell us of yourself, you would not be travelling the world being welcomed in an izzat daar (respectful) manner by male guppies around the world. I think you need to give credit where credit is due. After all, the Prophet himself was a great feminist of his time (I call in a religious example, mainly because I figure that’s the only thing that will get to you).
it was an advice not a threat or attack dear PCG. take it as you want. i don’t like feminism, you think i am ridiculising it, maybe, i don’t know, i probably just don’t understand what it is about.
Feminism is a big field that encompasses lots of items of interest. You don't have to agree with everything, just like with any other theory/practice.
Addressing the problem of double standards, as I've done in this threads, is one example of what feminism would fight against. Feminism says there should be no double standards. What is morally wrong for a woman is morally wrong for a man too. I think even Islam agrees with that. That's what I'm trying to get out of the series of threads on "wife's past" and "husband's past". Whatever you think is the moral solution to the situation, should be applied the same in either situation. Doesn't matter if the female was sleeping around or the male, prior to marriage. What matters is that one spouse slept around, when the other did not, and the one that slept around has the audacity to say they don't regret it and find nothing wrong with it. Either way, someone might be getting hurt, and that is the spouse that is receiving this news flash 3 years into the marriage.
Wow this is a trick question (at least for a dumb guy like me)
First of all why she waited 3 years to tell him that?
Rule of thumb will be beating her with a tinkoN wali jhaaroo but common sense says to look for few things before taking any steps...
1: How your relationship with your wife has been for the past 3 years?
2: Have any kids?
3: Are you able to provide her time she deserves?
4: Is she able to do same for you?
5: Has she showed any interest in religion since the marriage? (Praying, reading Qura'an, ect.)
If more than 50% of questions above lead to positive answers, I believe their is still hope and you can continue your life with the same person. (But still beat her with the tinkoN wali jhaaroo)
