Following up on the other thread I opened and based upon previous discussion in a “is she a whore?” type threads, I’d like to ask GS men a question, just to get an idea of what you think.
Scenario: You are happily married, and after about 3 years of marriage, your wife confides her lewd behavior as a “whore” (not literally) prior to marriage. She says that before she married you, Mrs. Smith was going to the City at least 5 times a week with various different males.
SHe looks you in the eye, promises she wont cheat on you and that she hasn’t in the 3 years you were married to her. Yet, when you ask her if she regrets what she did in the past, she says she’s got no regrets, and she enjoyed herself.
I guess it depends a lot on her behaviour of the last 3 years. However, even if Mr Smith stay with her, this relationship does not have a chance and a few years down the road a break up is imminent. It will be very difficult to forget, and it does not matter what kind of a past Mr. Smith has had prior to the marriage
if she does not regret it, means she does not think she has sinned, means she does not repent from zina, means she must be divorced....
its simple as that, there is nothing hard to understand there....
I know a MR and Mrs smith in this type of situation
Mrs Smith hasnt told Mr Smith
but the main issue is that Mrs Smith had quite a reputation for her fun and frolics...and the all the young men in the community know'ed about it, and they told their Mama's who told their friends
anyhow... Mr Smith is a jealous chap, and angry too
but he doesnt know
he's been married for three years... just like the Mr Smith in this scenario
and Mrs Smith has been a good wife to him
Where in Islam it says if your wife was a whore, but she is now a loyal wife to you for 3 or more years, must be divorced for the reason not regreting? I need some reference or historical exact example please!
Second, how to know if a girl is a virgin or not? Please provide some authentic proof through which we can certify a girl as a Virgin! (I am assuming Virgin means never have SEX)
Beside all these extremism, don’t you think she must be given a chance to correct herself? At least she was loyal to Mr. Smith for 3 years and never did any sin again, and by taking an extreme decision of divorcing her; will it help her?
PS: I am sure Mr. Smith is not a Muslim, so Muslim laws doesn’t apply on him, so please try to answer in a broader way, which is applicable to humans not just restricted to Muslims, Regards!
How are you so sure that it won’t have a chance? It depends on how the woman handles the situation. Some people may have a problem with it, and some people may not.
ur hardcore eh?