Your wife has no personality

No interests, no hobbies, no friends. You guys have kids but although she goes through the motions, you get the feeling she doesn’t really care about them. There is no affection toward you or your family and their never was. Her father dies from a car accident and your wife neither cries or grieves. You later learn she was severely abused by her parents at a very young age.

She was a distant relative and it was an arranged marriage. The first time you spoke to her was after the wedding. In your hotel room, you asked her if she would like something to drink. She replied that you could bring her whatever you wanted.

What now?

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wife has no character? :hmmm: you mean she is ‘characterless’? :cb:

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serious thread

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Meri biwi say tumhara kya lena dayna. Apnay kam say kaam rakho :P

Ab isase zyada ek insan ko khush honeke lie kya chahiye:D

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Wife is probably depressed and needs some counseling/therapy.

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a very happy husband?

Your wife has no personality

She needs to see and feel love. Her childhood must have been something horrible and she has her guard up so hopefully the man she married can show her how to be loved and feel loved.

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How can her husband show her he loves her though?

Will any of the typical things work?

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:rotfl: you mean husband got jannat in this world. :smiley:

Honestly I don't know to what extent she has been abused but I am sure she will simply recognize acts of kindness. Just being a friend to her might be a good start.

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is this a true story ? ..

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Therapy

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What's this? Female version of Christian Gay?

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Have her facebook account suspended.

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^ LOL! This is win.

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she needs to talk, counselling and some motivation i think.

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low self esteem..depression

she needs support, and therapy

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Tried talking to her about this? If so, what was the reaction like? Does she realize that her actions are a concern for people around? If her brought-up wasn't normal, you don't expect the behavior to be any normal either. The good news though is that it can be fixed. First step is talk to her. She might have real hard time trusting but you can use different tactics, being really polite at one time and a bit harsh at others (but don't start scolding, may be try emotional blackmailing) and something will definitely work which will make her discuss issues.

She does need to have a hobby. Find out the interest and may be get her enrolled in some training for that. If there are no friends, she's bound to be socially awkward but let her groom at her own pace in front of strangers. She might be too cautious in front of family (parents, inlaws, husband, kids) to even try being social.

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I think besides getting worried about ur wife say thanks to ALLAH many times a day for providing u such a wife.