Heres a situation:
A named Blabla’s wife died somewhere around sept time.She passed away delivering a baby and the baby couldnt survive.Somewhere something went wrong i dont have details what happened and i wudnt share much either. So in matter of 3 months Blablas mommy is looking for a rishta. The guy is still young, loved his wife. Now most larkis his mom is approaching are unmarried .She aint reaching out for divorced ones
Now you discuss all the odds in this situation.
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nothing odd.
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:( what did u eat today nomica?Why arent u hating?
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chanay…
you want issues?? i can tell you issues
its been only 3 months…and the guy and mother shouldn’t look for new wife too soon…
when a husband dies…the girl isn’t even allowed by society to re-marry…but the guy is doing so soon..
they shoudln’t be looking for a unmarried girl…the guy is himself randwa…so he should only look for divorced/widow girls… its so hypocritical for them to do that…
thats it… 
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i give u 9.5/10 ..5 are deducted for using so many dots.
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One of my uncles remarried after about a year (wife also died) and people criticised him for not waiting longer..
3 months is definitely too soon and also kinda disrespectful plus the fact mum is** only** going for unmarried girls..
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1- It's too soon, I think it's disrespectful to the memory of his late wife. He should mourn for more than 3 months. Not cool.
2- Why does a widower have to marry a widow or a divorcee? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
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1- It's too soon, I think it's disrespectful to the memory of his late wife. He should mourn for more than 3 months. Not cool.
2- Why does a widower have to marry a widow or a divorcee? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
but why should divorcees/widows be excluded?
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3 Months is indeed way too fast...
Now in typical detective movies this would be suspicous... khair....
Theres nothing wrong with widowed divorcee girls but in many places theres no shortage of larkis who are un-married too.
Aaaaanyyyywwwaaaay maybe this chap and his mum are in a hurry..... perhaps they are worried time will run out... you know all the 2012 Global Apocalypse BS....
Right thats my two cents for you... I'm off to check on that special secret bunker... ;)
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So how much time he/she should wait?
I mean these are arbitrary time periods. Some may get over the loss in few months some may never.
It is odd that someone would try to get married again in three months but maybe that person has needs and wants companionship as well.
Maybe his previous wife didn’t care and advised him to get married after her if something happened to her or vice versa.
How dare a randwa looks for unmarried woman. 
People have choices they go for it. What is wrong with it? It is between unmaried women and randwa guy. Lots of unmarried women wouldn’t mind marrying a randwa.
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i dont have any objections here.
it is not my life and i dont have any stake here, people are open to what ever they think is right I am not the one to police any body :)
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but why should divorcees/widows be excluded?
They shouldn't be, that's my point, unmarried, divorced, widowed, in my eyes are all the same. People looking for girls to marry shouldn't care about those things but more important things like compatibility/attraction/future together. My point was that some people think that divorced/widowed people should only marry other divorced/widowed people and that is BS. Everyone should be able to marry anyone they want regardless of these stupid things.
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The OP used the word "most", where did people get the "only" from?
Its too early for guy to be even thinking about marriage, its direspectful to the memory of his late wife but he himself needs some time to emotionally recover from the tragic loss.
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Lets look at the other side ... It MIGHT be that after losing his wife and kid , guy is so depress that he might have lost all his hope for life and MIGHT be suicidal etc etc , and his mom couldn't see him like that , and decided to find him some happiness in life again .
So , we shouldn't judge someone , you never know in what situation they are .
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Don't judge.
If someone gets married ask for invitation. ;)
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Lets look at the other side ... It MIGHT be that after losing his wife and kid , guy is so depress that he might have lost all his hope for life and MIGHT be suicidal etc etc , and his mom couldn't see him like that , and decided to find him some happiness in life again .
So , we shouldn't judge someone , you never know in what situation they are .
I get that perspective.
But I don't think marriage is the answer in such a case.
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I get that perspective.
But I don't think marriage is the answer in such a case.
Come on Reha , for you and I , Food is the answer , but this world is full of boring people too :p
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To each his/her own. Marrying this early does not make him a bad guy. Also, to wait for a "respectable" time to please society is not such a great thing. He should do what his heart tells him to do. He has suffered too - and may just want to be with someone.
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chanay…
you want issues?? i can tell you issues
When a husband dies o divorces a women, it’s in Islam they have a 3 months waiting period before they re marry not society
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kiddo............ i was talking about widowed women not being considered for marriage.........