I don’t know whether I should ask this or not but have you ever encountered that some of the things or clothes from you Jahaiz has been stolen by someone while you are showing it to someone or in susral? Its not to blame anyone but I heard about it from many people. If such a thing happens what to do? Please if Im wrong correct me.
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i've never heard of it happening, but thats pretty shameful!!
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wait and see who ends up wearing it .. cant really do anything unless u have enuf guts to accuse the person and try to make them own up.
ive heard of mil's and nands stealing from the dulhans jahez.. like unstitched clothes.. and then having the audacity of wearing them later on.. ho hum
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wow never heard of this
although i heard of in karachi chor coming n stealing
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I wouldn't be surprised if it did happen. simply stop showing off your stuff and noone will steal it.
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yes.have heard of many such instances.pretty shameful..
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oh man that is awful! none of my things ever got stolen and then again my family never let anyone stay near my things. and ofcourse theres the tradition of showing things to ur family and in laws. when they showed the clothes and all the jewelry to my in laws, all the women of my family were present there, when they showed the jewelry to my extended family, my mom dadi and chachi were each standing at a corner of a table eyeing everything very closely.
i have heard of a thief coming into someones house in isb and stealing all of a girls gold jewelry and she had a lot! he took everything but 2 sets that were with the girls sister or osemthing in another city. so the family ended up purchasing a few more sets ofcourse not as many as she had before but now at every occasion, eid or birthday she ends up getting a gold set from her relatives. but its pretty awful to have things stolen.
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I never heard of this, its sooooooo pathetic and sad, what kind of family would steal from the bride!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wouldn't be surprised if it did happen. simply stop showing off your stuff and noone will steal it.
AGREED! Although I am fortunate to receive quite a bit from my parents, we have decided not to show anyone anything (except my in-laws and immediate family privately.)
AGREED! Although I am fortunate to receive quite a bit from my parents, we have decided not to show anyone anything
Same here. My parents didnt make a hoo-haa out of anything they gave, just because they simply arent the type of people to show off things and make a deal out of what they are giving. They didnt give one stick to impress anyone and didnt make a show out of anything they gave alhamdulillah, which is great because it shows that they gave everything for my happiness, not to impress someone else
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^ hmmm...i've never really thought about it as showing of to be honest. I'm a girl I like looking at fancy pretty clothing, i never really thought that the person is trying to show off. but my sis only showed her jahez basically to the ppl staying at our house during the wedding---so immediate family.
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^ Ya not all people do it to show off and impress, sorry I didnt mean to suggest that. Its true, we like looking at pretty things and lots of people even ask themselves if they can see your wedding dress or new clothes etc. I just meant like how some people do it in a different manner totally to show off and parade the goods
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seems a little difficult for someone to steal and get away with it. usually the brides items are gift wrapped so someone has to be very slick to steal it. shameful and aweful though.
i've already decided, a selected few of my items will be shown to my family and probably extremely close friends. other than that people can see it on me in the future iA
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Things may not always be stolen just from the bride. My ammi says way back when she was at someoen's wedding and had her makeup bag full of makeup next to her since everyone was getting ready. Meanwhile, the lights went out, loadshedding and all and when it came back, her whole bag had just vanished. She was a somewhat new bride herself and ofcourse couldnt go on and search other's stuff.
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my husband's 3 year old nephew took my wedding ring from my dresser and threw it somewhere..it was found a couple weeks later by his mother...nothing ever stolen though.
Why show u're stuff to people? Whatever u're parents have given u is u'res.. I don't see the need to show it to 200-300 people. Just ask a sister or relative to put it in u're new home..
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^i agree, why show? i fail to understand why you need to show.
any khala or cousin who wanted to see the outfits chkd them out in my closet and that was it.
we didnt do any display or show-and-tell like that at my wedding, at all.
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Back in the days people would show the bari/jahaiz. I know we did it in Pakistan for my sister-in-laws, but that was 16 and 7 years ago.
On the mehndi we took the bari with us, unpacked it and showed it to the guests (ladies), repack in the suitcases and then hand locked suitcases over to the mothers.
On the walima they brought the jahaiz, unpacked it and showed it to the guests (again ladies), repack in the suitcases and then hand the suitcases over to us.
I have only seen this in one wedding in the UK, again that was years ago.
Not sure if it still happens in Pakistan as I haven't been to a wedding there in years. I guess if you need/want to show your stuff, if it's done in an organised manner there is little chance of things going missing.
I've noticed most things in Pakistan have lockes on them, cupboards/dressing tables, even fridges. If you take care of your stuff and don't leave things lying around then you should be ok.
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^^ i saw it happen last year...here in the US ... always just thgh it was part of the wedding traditions.
You know things do not automatically have to go missing after the wedding. All my aunts gold went missing when her sil was getting married and she given the gold to her mi to look after. Her mil said she never received the gold. They probably thought no one would do anything because we all live in different countries. After a couple to phone calls her mil eventually remebered where she had put the gold.