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could be kaam-chori too ^ bahir ja jay “kaam” bhi tau karna parta hai na
but this is the reason he told that since his parents were not happy or in favour of him leaving them alone,he decided to move back and yahan he rookhi sookhi kha kay gvzara kar layn gay :halo:
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prototype, do you know every single detail/reason for him to move back? you are guys's cousin's wife and there might be things that you do not know.
unless we have a reason to doubt his intentions, its shameful that we are twisting parents-kids love & bound to make it "kam chori" or "oh he did fit into the life style"
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Parents like that selfish. They missed him? Oh come on. They should've been happy for him!!!
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Parents come first, you meany people.I feel pity for your parents they have so called aqalmand kids like you or maybe your parents were aqalmand too!!
So sad...
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Agar parents ki itni fikar thi tou why did he even think of leaving them in the first place......and it's not like his parents were alone or sick.
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Ok I'm probably going to get Chitthars and tamatars but I'm with your husband.
We kinda inverse our relationship with our parents.
I would leave oppurtunity to be with them as well - once they go there is no coming back.
Jobs ka kiya hai - phir mil jaiyai gei nahee bhi milli tho thats something I'll deal with.
Now as far as discussing w/ your partner yes you should be clear and upfront about your priorities with your parents. And if they can accept it then all is well if not then thats not the partner for you.
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If you ask me personally, I would want my kids and their kids to be in comfort even if it means they have to move to a different country as long as they keep in contact through facetime etc.
Also, every girl leaves her parents behind when married but sadly you don't see the same reaction/sentiments in that case in desi society.
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Parents come first, you meany people.I feel pity for your parents they have so called aqalmand kids like you or maybe your parents were aqalmand too!!
So sad...
that's so rude...why are you getting personal? Chillax
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If you ask me personally, I would want my kids and their kids to be in comfort even if it means they have to move to a different country as long as they keep in contact through facetime etc.
Also, every girl leaves her parents behind when married but sadly you don't see the same reaction/sentiments in that case in desi society.
^^ agreed and agreed, I would want my kids to be comfortable but I would want to provide comfort for my parents.
We're built differently from our older generations - they value different things they need us to be around.
And taking care of your parents stands true for men and women. Why do you think in Islam its recommended that you marry within your direct circle of people? Because you both will be within reach of your family. You dont have to live in the same house to take care of them just not 7 seas away.
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I am with your husband on this one. Opinions like the ones here make me wonder y ppl have kids in the first place. If the parents dnt have any1 else then the children have to accommodate their parent. Hw easy is it to move en masse to another country?
Mayb it wasn't feasible for the son to call Parents over.
V dnt have a culture of old homes and by and large children take care of parents as parents do for them. My views on this mirror Decent's.
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Parents come first, you meany people.I feel pity for your parents they have so called aqalmand kids like you or maybe your parents were aqalmand too!!
So sad...
The only thing that is sad is your comment.
Parents do come first. So do biwi and bache. But if parents are completely healthy and capable of living life without any help from anyone else. And if they demand their son to come back and live with them JUST cause they r lonely then that's just sad. Is that really why we have children? Oh no, not children, sons .. so that they and their wives can stay with them for the rest of their lives and do their khidmat even though they're healthy? Really.
I agree with Hareem.
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being lonely isnt as simple as we make it out to be.
It leads to depression and such things...
Why do we have any relationships - let alone kids. To share love and comfort - be it parents and children or biwi bachai.
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that's so rude...why are you getting personal? Chillax
I cant bear anything about parents, I am a capricorn.
I love my parents, anything for them.
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The only thing that is sad is your comment. Parents do come first. So do biwi and bache. But if parents are completely healthy and capable of living life without any help from anyone else. And if they demand their son to come back and live with them JUST cause they r lonely then that's just sad. Is that really why we have children? Oh no, not children, sons .. so that they and their wives can stay with them for the rest of their lives and do their khidmat even though they're healthy? Really.
I agree with Hareem.
Some1 has to step up. I have friends with no brothers and they take complete care of their parents. Whether its going to hospitals or visiting them daily, it's drummed into our desi brains and is required by our religon, I dnt think it's a bad thing. People have to balance all their relations, where mian or Biwi
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The only thing that is sad is your comment.
Parents do come first. So do biwi and bache. But if parents are completely healthy and capable of living life without any help from anyone else. And if they demand their son to come back and live with them JUST cause they r lonely then that's just sad. Is that really why we have children? Oh no, not children, sons .. so that they and their wives can stay with them for the rest of their lives and do their khidmat even though they're healthy? Really.
I agree with Hareem./QUOTE
WendyJaneeman, All thanks to women like you, those who make my idoelogy about marrying not so parhee likhi larki strong indirectly!!
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Also, every girl leaves her parents behind when married but sadly you don't see the same reaction/sentiments in that case in desi society.
2 wrongs do not make a right
and everyone else, please do not make this
Parents
VS
BV/Bachey
thread. Both have their own significance and importance in one's life. Helping one out does not automatically means ignoring other.
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I cant bear anything about parents, I am a capricorn.
I love my parents, anything for them.
To phir aap shaadi na karein. Aap apni poori zindagi apnay maa-baap kay naam waqf kardein. Aap bhi khush, waldain bhi khush aur woh larki jiska haq aap maartay agar aapki us say shaadi hoti, woh bhi khush.
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^^^ I agrees, both husband and wife shd take care of each others parents.
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WendyJaneeman, All thanks to women like you, those who make my idoelogy about marrying not so parhee likhi larki strong indirectly!!
WHAT does that mean? Do you know me? NO!!! So keep your thoughts to yourself.
Edit: Aur aap ne parh ke bhi kya karliya? Judging and assuming things about other people, women online. Really? I'd rather be "not so parhi likhi" than being like you. Thank you.