I was a skinny kid and had that happen to me. It scars you. Also was repeatedly looked at as a six year old and compared to my gori 6 month old sister as baby is so cute and will get so many rishtas and then they’d look at me and frown.
I guess it’s a good thing my parents stopped socializing with desis.
I think Niksik discussed it once but it happens again and again with us.
Scenario: Desi aunty or Desi uncle approaches some young siblings (lets say older is 5 and younger one is few months or little older), they shout/scream ‘how cute’ and then try to build friendship with the older one. What is their friendly line? Your sister/brother is so cute, can I take her/him with me?
Another version is, your dress/toy/necklace/backpack is so cute, can i take it with me?
I mean seriously, what kind of affection is that? When someone said that to my older one for the first time about her younger sis, older one started crying assuming that the person is telling the truth. Later on she refused to goto that person’s house or meet us as family cause she was genuinely scared that the person is going to take her sister away.
Why our community in general lacks that ‘adultness’ when they are dealing with kids.
Another thing is ‘haww your daughter is so skinny, iss ko kuch khilaatay nahi hain aap’. More than me, it hurts my daughter’s self esteem. Man at least have the decency not to say it in front of a little child.
Sorry guys, but in general, our community has no clue how to deal with little kids. We hurt their self esteem, scare the heck out them, all in the name of care and affection.