Exactly! I’ve said that before too. People have a mirror, they see it several times a day. They know if they’re short, tall, fat, thin, dark, fair, pale, sickly, etc. Why you have to go out of your way to inform them is beyond me.
Sometimes I wonder if these women would go up to a disabled person and tell them, “Uh…yeah…haaw haai…you’re disabled.” I think most of them would have the sense not to because they KNOW it’s wrong. Some of them don’t hesitate to be blunt in milder situations because they’re jealous/insecure.,…is what I’ve found. And if it’s not that, they’re just plain obtuse/clueless.