YOUR SINCERE SUGGESTIONS...... PLEASE

Lifestyle Relationships
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I married last year may and we the couple moved to UAE right away Now Al Hamdu Lillah we have one baby boy too some months old.

I love my wife very much and she claims her love towards me is more than mine (Al Hamdu Lillah).

At my work among many collegues one is a Philphino single girle , we have very good communication and understanding regarding our work , office people and environment.

Since we are together since last Two and Half years , so I know about her and she knows about me.

I have told her about my wife , baby , shown her our wedding pictures, engagment this type of every thing.

and i have told My wife also regarding this lady and her every thing.

Last day I opend My Facebook account and since we have added each others and My wife saw her pic, and asked who is this lady? , I told it is Miss A , she told why you have her contact there?.

also when this lady will forward some Email , My Misses will say , why she is Emailing to you?.

I am always telling her… see , she is my Collegue and that is all , I told her ,it is some thing shocking for me that you suspects me.

Yes , I can , Remove this Collegue contact , block her Emails to me or simply ask her donot Email me.

But , some time I think , Is our Relationship that much week that an outsiders one Email / Photo can shake it?.

what should I do and how to handle my buddy ?

Looking for your sincere suggestions.

Thanks

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Re: YOUR SINCERE SUGGESTIONS...... PLEASE

well...if you were there in her place...i mean if works n you get to see colleagues n mails how would u react?

just tell her its a chawwal gal at ur work :D

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Before, aishadubaiwali or some other guppie says this...i wana say it so here it goes..................drum roll plz.............

"ANOTHER dubai guppie"

Dont know why...but just wanted to say it...............i dont know whats up with this statement!!.....and i want to find out!...

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^lol

the only thing i can suggest is to calm ur wife down and explain to her u need to maintain contact with the opposite gender for work. You cant be wrapped in cotton wool. She seems insecure, maybe ur not giving her enough attention so shes thinking things. Ask her to open up to u and try and clear any misconceptions she may have.

If she is at all rational, with a slight bit of patience and love u can make her understand.

Good Luck

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LOL icebreaker.

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She is insecure. Give her a huge hug and tell her she is the ONLY ONE and Lovely one :D

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So you still aren't going to tell me the real......REAL...meaning behind it.......

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are your emails and contact with her on Facebook business related or personal?

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facebook AKA FITNAbook - if it's not work related why even add them. try to keep away work from home as far as possible. saves you much headache!!

ps: i still use fitnabook :D

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exactly why i asked the above question. I dont see why you would want to add someone from work on facebook. I dont want my co-workers knowing everything about my personal life.

facebook is only fitnabook if you make it as such.

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it's fitnabook to begin with.. it's only what u make of it that counts ;)

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:smack:

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I have added colleagues of mine to Facebook but they only see select information...not all of my photos or info is visible to them. AE is right, your personal life and professional life shouldnt run into each other.

You have more contact with the outside world then she does. SHe stays home to take care of the baby, right? She might be paranoid but until she works she wont understand. Please do your best to put her fears at rest...there will come a time when she stops asking but it will take some effort from your side.

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well umm u shud keep ur office workers in ur office n make sure they know they stay their.. n not get private with u by sending pictures... if she knows ur married y is she sending u her pix?

n if NOW u know ur Mrs. is abit possessive about u u shud make sure to tell ehr nps if u dun like it ill just dlt tht Miss A from fb or msn where ever .

P.S if u were in her shoes wud u like her co workers sending her their pix... i bet u dun even want her to work :)

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u should def limit contacts with this girl. coz peace in ur house is much imp than keeping a buddy. if ur wife feels insecure or jealous it is her womanly way of showing her love for u :)

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Brother These social networking sites are really a threat to married people. What i would suggest is closed down every thing that has your pictures on it so your wife wont be able to suspect you. It is obvious that she loves you a lot and therefore is concern about who that girl is and why is she emailing you. If i were you i'd never make a facebook account or add any one to it! Live mysterious friend!

PS> Brother Face-book, My-space, Match.com, E|harmony.com they are all for western open minded people (no offense) but our race is indeed some what backwards it will take another generation for the old hag syndrome to fade off so i would suggest that these kind of sites only western women can understand desi on the other hand are way too much emotional so i would not make any of these sites! They're a C4-Land mines.

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The real REAL meaning is "another Dubai Guppy"..

or.. another Guppy from Dubai.

Guppy = male member on GS
Guppni = female member on GS

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what about Guppan?^

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I do not think you should have to cut contact with this friend.
I'm guessing because it has only been 2 months since your wife had the baby she is probably over tired and not thinking straight (Do not tell her that!)
Maybe you could take your wife (and son?) out for a meal to meet your work colleagues, it may put her mind at rest, she may even like your friend.

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You would not want her to continue doing what you do not like her to do , right ?
So why don't you stop doing what she does not like you doing ? If something pains your wife it should be reason enough for you to stop doing that. Human emotions are beyond logic , do not try to convince your wife to allow you to keep interacting with this co worker of your via email or FB.

You can limit your platonic relationship with that Philipino girl to the office.

It is that simple , no ifs and buts.