your mother treating your MIL unfairly

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Ladies, has that ever happened? What was your reaction. Or if this ever happens, what would you do?

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I've seen the opposite happening.

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^ Yes, and we have 10000235671 threads on that topic already :D

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Lady or her mother can never be unfair....ever never ever never ever.......this thread is going nowhere :D

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saas bhee kabhi lady thee :D

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I would stop her by talking to her about it. If it doesn't work, minimizing contact (between them) seems to be the next best thing. Bottom line, I won't let it continue.

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Most girls' parents wouldn't have the guts to mistreat the boys' mum/daughter's MIL..

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I would speak to her about it but I have yet to see it happen where my mom has ever mistreated any of the MILs.

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no i have never seen this happened.

if something like this happens i'll try to figure out why exactly she is doing this and will try to explain her. and still if things arenot heading to the right path then i will tell the two ladies to not to meet each other and stay away from each other.

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That is so not right.

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Yeah I've noticed this here in Pakistan, the girl's family appear to be very respectful and kind of obedient to the guy's family. In most matters they wouldn't dare go against them. For example I recently played cricket with my friends, and the opposing team were the in laws of my friend's sister. The behnoi of my friend was a whining rondu who was trying to have his way at every opportunity and my friend let the cheating asshole walk all over us, simply because he didn't want to offend him.

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I Know girl’s moms who are more in control than guys’ mom, especially in the cases where hubby is joroo ka ghulam :hehe:

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I've seen that happening too. I don't think it's about treating anyone unfairly but being dominating as part of their personalities. My uncle's wife is one such example. She interfered so much in her 2 daughters marriages that they are both divorced now.

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Dad’s mum is more controlling than mum’s mum but my mum is more controlling than aapi’s MIL. :hmmm: (not in a bad way at all!)

Oh, and I’ll also be more controlling than my sambdhan! :faris:

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Saw it once with one of my friends. Ended up in a divorce where his MIL forced her daughter to get a divorce.

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I will not let it continue...and my mom knows me too well to even try it!

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Do we have a common friend? Because exactly the same thing happened with my friend too. His MIL made her daughter seek a 'khula'.

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*i would straight up tell my mum to stop it ( in a nice calm way). i mean Unfair is Unfair ...no matter who does it!. *

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I've seen it happen with one couple, but honestly, the girl's MIL has been asking for it. The girl was a doc, and her MIL forced her to drop her job, and there was all this drama with threats of kidnapping her child, locking her up, etc. And so the girl's mom HATES her son in law and his mom, and even though the families have compromised and settled (she gave up her surgical career with demanding hours for a half day at a primary care clinic in Karachi...which you guys have no clue, but that would drive me insane), and yet she still abuses her son-in-law whenever she sees him, and doesn't give a rat's arse about her daughter's MIL since she was the source of the destruction of her daughter's career.

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My mom … nope never.. :nahi: She has taken care of her parents in laws more than my father ever did.

My daadi, may Allah bless her soul, was a bit strict (not a bad woman) n obviously loved her daugters more than her DILs but when she was on her death bed, she was giving duaas to my mother and not to any of her daughters. I keep saying, my mom is my inspiration. I want to be like her.