Re: Your job his job
Here’s the deal: When I was introduced to a rishta I wasn’t so enthused about, in the moments I thought, meh, might as well say yes, I might be able to muddle along in a relationship with him, my career and the continuation of it was a HUGE sticking point. He on his own wasn’t enough to make me happy and I wanted the satisfaction and accomplishment of a career to help make me happy.
When I was introduced to someone who I thought could make me happy, I thought, career-shmareer, who cares about that. The idea of him and being in a happy relationship with him was enough to make me content. The career was irrelevant.
Sunshine, it all depends on what that career means in one’s life and what that relationship means. Neither is static and choosing one over the other doesn’t sound the death knell for feminism - it’s a choice. That’s feminism.