Re: Your Husband's Past
PCG,
I guess my approach is that of handling things with a view of the future in mind.
If the guy does not regret what he has done in the past, it doesn't mean that he is going to repeat his behaviour. Technically speaking you said that he has admitted to sleeping around prior to marriage (at least that's what I recall, I haven't bothered to go back and read again to clarify). Since taking his vows he has not made any transgressions.
If he has been faithful to his wife then that's what should count.
There are lots of things that people do in their past lives that they are not proud of........they may not regret them because they learned from them or they paid a price for a certain experience and are happy to have had it at that cost.....in other words, they don't regret. This does not necessarily mean that given the same opportunity now, they would make the same decision.
It's not as simple as just saying he doesn't regret his actions so I should leave him.
As far as the other thread is concerned.....I haven't looked at it because I believe that the same principle should apply to both the husband and the wife. Having said that, I also recognize that double standards exist in our society and both genders are never given the same leniency. This is a fact of life and I have chosen to accept it. Will it ever change? Inshallah someday. In the meanwhile, I will teach my daughter of this double standard and how to protect herself from falling prey to those that take advantage of it.