Re: Your Husband’s Past
iori: 
mamaof3: please refer to my response in the other thread. I really am interested in understanding how you view the matter from the other gender’s perspective.
Muzna: I am assuming that all was done to investigate both parties’ backgrounds, and that both parties in this scenario and in the other counterpart thread made it clear before marriage that both the bride and the groom were virgins when entering in on their pact, and that all possible thorough searches that could have been done into backgrounds were done.
I’ll give you an example. I had a friend whose family I thought was incredibly so shareef and wonderful people. The parents, I think, genuinely are nice people. Now, I wasn’t looking for marriage in that family or anything, but another one of my friends WAS. Things didn’t work out between the couple because personalities didn’t match, but I found out that the prospective groom (my friend’s brother), has done some hanky panky in the past before with a non-muslim girl, and also has a child from her, whom she takes care of. Its a family secret that is so well kept, because the son got this girl pregnant when he was off at college. Oh of course, desi boys are encouraged to go away from home for college, and are obviously expected to do nothing wrong. Well, the pakistani ladies he’s going around proposing to have no clue about it.