by that argument, i guess u would then expect men to do an equal amount at home too then?
women shouldnt be expected to work... but when a need arises, or if she wishes to, then she shouldn't be condemned for it.
Equality aint about doing the same as men or watever, its about having a choice.
Are men expected to go home and cook a meal and bathe their children before bed? or is that just a duty a women/mum needs to fulfil regardless of the fact she works or doesnt?
sure- with working couples there has to be parity in how much work they do at home, but lets be clear, parity overall..if one person works 60-70 hours and other works 40, then the one working 40 should not expect the other one to divide the house work 50-50.
Its a partnership, and as soon as people understand the principle of parity the better off they will be.
I do have to point out one thing, there are other duties that mostly men handle that they handle with work too, yardwork, snow shoveling, fixing this that or the other etc etc, so to assume that they do nothing aside from work is not fair either. its different stuff, and as long as couples coopaerate rather than draw battle lines, its all cool.
The hubz and i leave home at the same time to go to work and come back at the same time as we travel together... but when we get home, i'll go home and look after the kid and organise food (on soem days and he on other days)... it just depends on what happens when we get home..
He travels more than i do.. longer distance, hence gets tired more easily... so i wouldnt expect him to go home and do things equally as well as i am doing...
neways, there should just be a good understanding of things in the household.. that way things work out a lot better...
just cus both work, doesnt mean housework can be equally distributed... a lot of other things come into play
I believe, if a hubby is earning a good amount of money then he shouldn't ask his wife to work. If she still wants to work then it's her choice.
Personally, i would never ask my wife to work as it would be my responsibilty to fulfil her needs. She will be allowed to do volunteer work if she doesn't have anything else to do, but i will not allow her to work to earn money. It is something i will provide her :)
She won’t need money in first place. I will provide her enough money.
As is said, that’s the way i want it to be. It’s not like i will put a gun on her head and ask her to marry me. I wil discuss this with her before getting married, if she doesn’t agree she can go find someone else
Nothing is wrong with a woman working She can go & do volunteer work, it’s the same as normal work. The only difference she won’t get paid. Simple.
If anything, there is something wrong in your head. Learn to respect other people’s views/opinions.
Very interesting view and opinion… but have you ever thought about this situation from a girl’s perspective??? …What if you meet an amazing highly educated girl??? I personally can’t imagine going through all of the hassle of obtaining my education (at my parents expense and the years out of my own life) … to either sit home or volunteer??? After so much hard work and effort AND money spent to get to where you want to be… it is a natural thing for a person to want some reward at the end. The reward is the salary earned by performing the job you got the degree and qualifications to do.
And when I mean expense … i mean hundreds of thousands of dollars and 7 years of education. It is not something to easily gloss over. And I know that I am not the only girl in this position.
Also think about it from the girl’s parents point of view… how do u think they would like it if their son-in-law tells their daughter that she is not allowed to earn a living??? When the whole point of them spending so much time and money on getting her educated was so that she had the ability to stand on her own two feet. When they are obviously so proud of her for reaching that goal of getting that degree… and naturally had the hopes and dreams to see their daughter be an accomplished individual in more ways than just the traditional “mother and wife”…
Very interesting view and opinion...... but have you ever thought about this situation from a girl's perspective????? ...What if you meet an amazing highly educated girl??? I personally can't imagine going through all of the hassle of obtaining my education (at my parents expense and the years out of my own life) ..... to either sit home or volunteer?????????? After so much hard work and effort AND money spent to get to where you want to be.... it is a natural thing for a person to want some reward at the end. The reward is the salary earned by performing the job you got the degree and qualifications to do.
And when I mean expense ... i mean hundreds of thousands of dollars and 7 years of education. It is not something to easily gloss over.
Save it. These kinds of guys want to control their women, so first way to do that is to take her money away and make her financially dependent on them. That way, if they realize he is an idiot, they cannot run away too easily.
Yeah punjabirose, i have. As i said above, i won't force her to marry me. I will discuss everything with her before getting married. If she agree, then fine; if she doesn't, then i will try to negotiate.
Rest assured, she will be given the right to speak & express her views. I will fully pay attention to all her concerns and will try to reach a conclusion.It will hopefully work out :)
Yeah punjabirose, i have. As i said above, i won't force her to marry me. I will discuss everything with her before getting married. If she agree, then fine; if she doesn't, then i will try to negotiate.
Rest assured, she will be given the right to speak & express her views. I will fully pay attention to all her concerns and will try to reach a conclusion.It will hopefully work out :)
u might want to talk to her parents as well........................................
lol to the danday part… that is exactly what my fricking dad would do if any dude approached him with such a request. When one spends hundreds of thousands of dollars on something…its not a “negotiation” worthy topic… LOL
She can go & do volunteer work, it’s the same as normal work. The only difference she won’t get paid. Simple.
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