Your humble Opinion

Your humble Opinion

^ that's true too X2!
And PCG you can't really believe that somebody is only just paying for his haircuts. That seens silly to me. That's all that was given in the thread. I believe she takes on most of the role for sure but it really is about little or big sacrifices. She has savings and so does he. This doesn't seem like a paycheck to paycheck situation so I am having a hard time with this girls decision to bring someone over through the immigration process and then be so fed up with being responsible for him. I don't disagree with her not wanting to pay for his exams, he clearly failed the first time but I think that they should still compromise on splitting it. Something? how do you give up on your husband, thats the part Im having a hard time with especially when money doesn't seem to be an issue. I just can't take a third persons biased word for it by saying "he controls her money and is not nice." That may very well be the case but we don't know. Op clearly doesn't have a good impression of this guy and I am just firm on never only taking one side of the story. Things seem off here and money doesn't seem to be an issue at all here. It's ironic, usually that's what newly weds suffer from, no money problems. But you cant really ask at this point if whether or not she should be in this marriage because she is in the marriage and by the looks of it knew she would be supporting him long before she married him. When you do immigration work, you prove your financial status and prove you can support the person your bringing over. They dont just grant immigration that easily, you go through the process and even after for the first three years are required to show your financial abilities. That's the only reason this irks me, because she knew and did take on this role. Maybe she didn't expect him to fail and I don't blame her for that, but I mean they are now married and in this together right? Unless she doesn't to be married anymore, that may be the issue.

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I totally agree with you but she already is financially supporting him by paying all bills and providing the roof over their heads and paying for food. Plus I bet she is the one doing the cooking too, he probably doesn't do all the housework because he is studying.

Still does not explain why a man with 10k savings doesn't first dip into his own account before he asks his wife to pay. If he has like 1000 in his account and the exam is 3k it's a perfectly legit question. But he has ample funds so what is he protecting them for?? All those criticizing the girl aren't answering this question.

I hope she doesn't get pregnant at this stage.

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The question isn't why isn't she sharing her money - she clearly is.

Question is - why isn't he sharing his money. 10k is a decent amount of savings.

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she needs to fire him......... clearly the expenses being incurred on him aren't generating enough ROE

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He should be using his own money but the fact that she (or rather both of them) view the money as "mine" is the problem. They're both in the wrong, not just the guy.