Your humble Opinion

[madz124]

Re: Your humble Opinion

@Mezhgan

I did not imply that a guy is a moneymaking machine. I stated that if a person (person as in male or female) cannot support themselves financially, honestly, they are not ready for marriage and should not even be contemplating it. The reason I used the word “person” and not “guy” is that I believe that this applies to both men and women. If a couple is being supported by their families (either set) while “getting settled,” what will they do if one of the parents falls seriously ill, has an accident, loses their job or they are faced with some other catastrophe that strains the family’s finances? My comment was in reference to PCG’s suggestion that if a guy cannot support himself because he is still studying, his family should support the couple.

Right, Mezhgan. But the way I understood your comment was, if the guy in this situation couldn’t provide for his wife, he shouldn’t have gotten married. The point I’m trying to make is, we don’t know his financial situation or his qualifications, but I am guessing if the couple was back home, the guy would very well be able to provide for the family. In this situation, the circumstances are such that there is an adjustment period, and patience and teamwork is required on their part to make their marriage work.

I didn’t read all the responses in this thread but I generally dislike any crude responses (in this thread or others) like:

• Girl shouldn’t have married him if she wasn’t willing to support him
• Guy shouldn’t have gotten married if he wasn’t able to support the family
• Girl should consider giving divorce because there seem to be serious issues

People should think before making a comment. First step is communication. Shaadi ke shuru main, kise problems nahi aatin? Ek tu pehle se the couple is having a tough time, ooper se it doesn’t help when others put doubt in your mind. The girl married him and brought him here … kuch dekh ke hi rishta kya hoga na?

I agree with you that our parents’ generation had a much higher work ethic than our generation does. They were also much more tolerant and willing to make things work.