Get OUT while you still can…
…otherwise you have no-one to blame but yourself for getting into an abusive situation.
Men like these do not miraculously change after marriage and the crap that he says or does is only gonna get worse and maybe even physical.
An adult man should be able to have some kind of control over his temper and be able to express himself in a civilised manner without having to resort to filthy or abusive language.
You’ve said you have talked to him and his solution is “just do what I say and I’ll be fine”…that reeks of psychopathic behaviour.