Your daughter is now pregnant outside marriage

Janjua39 · October 16, 2011, 9:14pm

And you had no clue about the aashiq boy. Now what will you do?

NomiCA · October 16, 2011, 9:21pm

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Now thats something i have to think about..

STA · October 16, 2011, 9:28pm

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WTH

KKF · October 16, 2011, 9:48pm

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pahle baap kii to shaadii to ho jaaye phir beTii kii socheNge

nadeemnirvana · October 16, 2011, 9:51pm

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is this the same daughter that dabbled in porn stardom?

Deeba1234 · October 16, 2011, 9:52pm

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If so, we all know the answer..

kidd120 · October 16, 2011, 10:10pm

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Midnight_express_91 · October 16, 2011, 10:15pm

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sell the baby on ebay :)

Janjua39 · October 16, 2011, 11:49pm

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This is a serious issue guys, not a joke from Daily Mail.

Sara516 · October 17, 2011, 12:03am

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if you're old enough to have sex, you should be old enough to deal with the consequences.

If she planned on marrying the guy, great...if not, or they couldn't get married...idk...keep the kid and raise it. Any other alternative seems inhumane.

M_was_here · October 17, 2011, 12:10am

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Get the two married asap. Can't possibly think of anything else. If she's a 13-year-old, smack myself for raising a total moron and getting her help, focused on school and studies. And possibly putting up the baby for adoption.

If she's an adult, marriage is the only option.

Janjua39 · October 17, 2011, 12:11am

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What would you do as a parent?

You will seriously put your grandchild up for adoption? Have you no heart?

Doppleganger · October 17, 2011, 12:15am

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Grandchild or a *******?

Sara516 · October 17, 2011, 12:19am

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Ah yes...forgot to take age into consideration.

I did say we'd keep the kid and raise it IF she was in no position to raise the kid herself....as for having an abortion, or giving it up for adoption...no way.

M_was_here · October 17, 2011, 12:25am

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Yeah, if she's a teenybopper dummy, I dont want her to have a child at the age of 13 and have her whole life go to waste. Adoption is the only option so she gets her life back on track. Plus, knowing my fiance he would never a reminder of that every day. It would be a hard decision but it has to be done because no way am I letting her ruin her even more.

ll_xx_ll · October 17, 2011, 1:13am

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**i had to say it but if she was my girl I’d have her baby aborted ** **and then i wud refuse to speak to her ever again for disappointing me, and for making me do something I am going to be forever ashamed of (basically she doubly shamed me)

im against abortion but thats what i wud do :hinna: cannot let her have the baby and ruin her life cannot let her give birth and put it up for abortion cuz i wudnt be in control of where the child ends up and i wud be afraid he/she wud end up in a nonmuslim home or treated badly…soooo i wud go for the abortion route **

blackforest_360 · October 17, 2011, 1:19am

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Even if she is an adult, say 21 up? I don’t see why her life would be ruined if she can care for it etc, perhaps her reputation amongst the desi community would be tainted but she doesn’t have to be a part of it.

Sara516 · October 17, 2011, 1:23am

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Well, you know what....if she gets a bad reputation becuase of it then she deserves it because frankly, what she did wasn't something to be congratulated for

Demilitarize · October 17, 2011, 1:29am

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Im all for abortion too if it is timely, ie before 60 days.

ll_xx_ll · October 17, 2011, 1:29am

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**at 21 I was in no position to care for a baby... secondly if I put myself in that position ...if i had had a baby out of wedlock at 21 and kept it...i would be regretting my decision right now at 26,...because I want a life partner from my culture and religion at this age ...though at 21 i used to feel like marriage is a useless institution and i shud just adopt a baby and forget the guy thing...I dont think like that anymore....

human beings are very dynamic even if my daughter wants to keep her baby, she would probably be making an emotional decision...her life wouldnt be ruined I agree but it would be rough...(a) its not easy task raising a child as a single mom (b) like i said before at 21 i was in no position to raise a kid (c) if she wants marriage at a later date...and she has a baby in her godhi...tell me it would be easy for her to find a good muslim mate? probably not... (d)if she keeps the baby what kinda future does the baby have in our community ...tomorrow when the kid is old enough to get married how many desis/muslims wud be willing to give him their daughter or willing to accept her as their bahu? ...Yeah im thinking way far out in the future but when u make decisions like this u have to consider everything

yeah so u can call me selfish or immoral but thats what i will do

having said that im also a firm believer in istakhaara so i wud do an istakhara in this situation and if the istakhaara came out that we gotta keep the baby I will otherwise im doing what i said above

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