a non-Muslim. What will you do? And would your reaction depend on whether it’s your son or your daughter?
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yep the reaction will vary!
my son can marry a non muslim as long as they are people of book, a daughter can't..I dont say this, Islamd does so I cant have issues with it.
Now, if we were talking atheists, hindus, budhists etc (aka NOT people of book), I will try to make them understand how this will not be accepted or tolerated and thats where I draw the line. :-)
anmd if they still dont listen to me, I will be very hurt and ask Allah Taala to give them hidaya and forgiveness of their sins... after all, thats all I can do.. right?
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I am getting my baby married at 18, he/she are not getting too much freedom to look around or bring ppl home.
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At least he or she married instead of staying in a "relationship" for forever. I'd just hug the kid and that'd be that.
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i don't think it happens that on one fine morning the son brings home a non-Muslim wife. before it happens, i would let my son know exactly what to expect from me if he decides to marry a non-Muslim without converting her. if he still goes ahead with no regard to Islamic rules, i would NOT go along. i can NOT disown my son from inheritance but i will NOT see his face again in life to show my utmost displeasure...it's NOT about me...i would take this extreme step because it's against Islam and a betrayal of father-son relationship!
EDIT:
by a non-Muslim, i meant those who believe in religions other than Christianity and Judaism. [daughters do NOT even have that exception].
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i don't think it happens that on one fine morning the son brings home a non-Muslim wife. before it happens, i would let my son know exactly what to expect from me if he decides to marry a non-Muslim without converting her. if he still goes ahead with no regard to Islamic rules, i would NOT go along. i can NOT disown my son from inheritance but i will NOT see his face again in life to show my utmost displeasure...it's NOT about me...i would take this extreme step because it's against Islam and a betrayal of father-son relationship!
They could do a fake conversion, just for the sake of marriage. What would you do then?
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They could do a fake conversion, just for the sake of marriage. What would you do then?
it's ok...Islam does NOT allow me or anyone else to cut open someone's heart to see if they have Islam in there. only words make you a Muslim...it's another story if you do NOT practice it...there are millions of Muslims who are Muslims by default. IF they revert to whatever religion they were practicing prior to marriage, then the marriage will automatically become null N void.
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it's ok...Islam does NOT allow me or anyone else to cut open someone's heart to see if they have Islam in there. only words make you a Muslim...it's another story if you do NOT practice it...there are millions of Muslims who are Muslims by default. IF they revert to whatever religion they were practicing prior to marriage, then the marriage will automatically become null N void.
But you can't that "never see his face again" if they pretend whenever they're around you.
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But you can't that "never see his face again" if they pretend whenever they're around you.
i am NOT responsible for what they do and believe in my absence...but, remember: truth always comes out...sooner or later! i can't be held responsible for something i am NOT aware of!
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what if they bring home a supermuslim with a passport to jannat etc, but of the same gender 
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Not an issue with me as long as they can sponsor my baby too!
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i don't think it happens that on one fine morning the son brings home a non-Muslim wife. before it happens, i would let my son know exactly what to expect from me if he decides to marry a non-Muslim without converting her. if he still goes ahead with no regard to Islamic rules, i would NOT go along. i can NOT disown my son from inheritance but i will NOT see his face again in life to show my utmost displeasure...it's NOT about me...i would take this extreme step because it's against Islam and a betrayal of father-son relationship!
EDIT:
by a non-Muslim, i meant those who believe in religions other than Christianity and Judaism. [daughters do NOT even have that exception].
it is easier said then done.....
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Not an issue with me as long as they can sponsor my baby too!
lol....he means a homosexual
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it is easier said then done.....
well, i've seen it happen...not in this type of situation though. i've seen a few fathers who never saw the faces of their children as long as they lived and also vasiiyat karo k jab vo mareN to unke beTe unkii maiyat ko haath na lagaayeN...i've seen with my own eyes when one of the sons came to see his father [after he passed away] but was reminded by family members and then he did NOT see his dad's face.
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I am sorry but that is too extreme, maybe parents need to look at the reasons why children are going with non muslims, and find a way to address those issues at an early stage.
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well, i've seen it happen...not in this type of situation though. i've seen a few fathers who never saw the faces of their children as long as they lived and also vasiiyat karo k jab vo mareN to unke beTe unkii maiyat ko haath na lagaayeN...i've seen with my own eyes when one of the sons came to see his father [after he passed away] but was reminded by family members and then he did NOT see his dad's face.
Yikes that is really extreme. I know our religion does allow men to marry Jewish/Christian women whereas women cannot marry outside their faith but I think I won't be too pleased if my son wants to marry a non-Muslim either.
But would you all eventually come around and accept your child's spouse even though they aren't Muslim or would you distance yourself? I sometimes get scared thinking of this scenario because I have been seeing Muslim girls marrying outside their faith. You do your best as a parent but how do you make sure your child does not end up falling for a person of another faith?
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LOL
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honestly, i would hope they were good people and came from good family, and i would support their choice. son or daughter, by the time they're ready to make the decision to marry they are adults and responsible for their own actions and decisions. of course i would tell them what the right thing to do is while raising them but i'm not going to abandon or lose my child because they love someone from a different culture or faith. people from different cultures and faiths are human, too, and just as capable of being good people as people who happen to be born muslim. will i still feel this way in 30 years when the kid is likely to get hitched? i don't know. ask me then.
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^ Of course they're good people. I never meant to say they are horrible people but isn't it different when you're discussing marriage? I feel when it comes to marriage, for us Muslims, it's more than just being a good person and coming from a decent family. As parents, we all encourage our children to get along with people of every faith and culture. After all we live amongst people of various faiths and cultures. It's just that when it comes to marriage I was wondering if people would strongly condemn such a thing, try to convince their child to not go ahead with it or just accept it with open arms?
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My instinct would be to discourage it. And to point out all of the challenges they will face. I would point out that marriage isn't just about lust or love or friendship. It is about making a home and raising children with another person, and you have to be able to see your spouse as a partner in these tasks.
I know, though, that nothing I will say will make a difference.
Once we've talked it all out and accepted things, I would accept the spouse wholeheartedly and pray for the couple and their children to be good people in a happy marriage.