Your appearance and desi culture

[Gaia]

Re: Your appearance and desi culture

@stoppit

“Besides, people naturally tend to be very blunt with folks they know well enough, its not like Desis go around tell random people on their face that you’re ugly or whatever.”

I don’t agree. I think they have an unhealthy obsession with what other people look like and feel the need to comment.

The first time I went to Pakistan, people I had never met previously in my life (and no relation) thought they needed to make comments on how thin I was and how I needed to be more ‘healthy’.

And another time when I stayed with a friend for a few days in Lahore and we went out with her friends, her male friends could not stop “taking the mickey” (this is for you, Hareem) about the fact I wore glasses… like wtf? I was in my mid twenties btw.

Now, I don’t give a crap but it is annoying. Like I want your opinion??

THIS!!

I actually prepare myself for the judgmental remarks I get when I come to PK .

“app ki skin tou much darker hae, app ki ammi say.”

“app tou America main rahthi hae, pir hijab kiyu?”

“weight lose ya gain kiya hae?”

“no rishtas, abi tak?” (I loved this one and p.s I was 18)

For all those arguing that this happens all over, ermm no it doesn’t. Ya if your fat/ugly/short/ in high school you get made fun off, that’s different. But What I’m referring to, are grown people who say this stuff with this attitude, and you’re like, really? I have never heard of anyone passing remarks like this here in the States, besides high school, which no one should really take seriously.