Younger brother fell in love...engaged...now regrets..

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I’ve got a younger brother who fell in “love” about a year ago. My family and I don’t like their family at all (cheap people - inviting neighbours to dinner not us, bad mouthing about us, giving nothing but only taking, throwing out our food once they get home saying they think it’s haram cause we bought it from a halal store they don’t think is halal even though it clearly says outside, list goes on) but he was very stubborn and insisted on getting engaged so my parents decided to let it happen for him. Now he regrets it and my parents are all happy about it but my mom is saying it’s not fair for the girl who is also deeply in “love” with him. I know i’m happy and so is my middle brother along w/ my dad but is it a good idea to just let her know now and break the engagement off? My brother approached me and asked me how he should do it and I had no answer so I’m turning to GS as always.

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Isn't it better that an engagement is broken rather then a marriage? Your brother should break the news to her since he was the adament one before all this.This would make him learn a lesson too that could be invaluable in the long run.

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Kids these days lol...

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why does he regret it now?

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I agree completely with asky.

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He won't let the marriage happen but he's just confused on how to bring the news up to her.

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How can she be so ignorant of the fact that it isnt working out...is she really that oblivious or pretending to be. I still believe he should handle it, he is the one who got himself in that situation and should get himself out of it.

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no offence but ur brothers seems like one of those men who think its a joke,its also a girls fault if he doesnt listen to his own family how the hell she s expecting him to listen to her?

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well..like Ask99 said...better engagment than marriage..its still not too late.

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Nope what you're "seeming" is incorrect. He's a very nice a guy, so nice that people 2 different fathers have approached my father at the masjid wondering if he's available for their daughters. In his situation what happened was that he sent those special emails and she replied back with poems, they went out a few times (family members around) and it ended up becoming something he thought was love. He's now realized that their family and our family don't get along at all and usually the daughter ends up being like the mother so I guess he noticed something he never did before. He will let her know before it's too late but he did ask me how he should approach her with the sad news...I being clueless asked for advice on gs as always.

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better for the girl if he leaves now. it's obviously not love if he doesnt love her back.

whats with the double standards?
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I hate breakups :)

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rock, how did you like that girl??
you mention her family is cheap? is that girl any different??
if girls is ok then she should be given a chance.

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seems like these fathers are in a hurry to get rid of their daughters.

as for the topic…wht makes her / her family cheap and ur bro/family nawabi naan kababi? care to share bcos ur comment about them being cheap really tells a lot about you n your family. :chai:

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i am wondering what you meant when you said her family is cheap?

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Of course you’ll always find people out there who are in extreme need of attention like in this case. We have you who just turned the entire thing around without having any proof or evidence of saying what you said. I’ve never met any one on GS with such a bad attitude and mindset. Here I am asking for advice on my brothers behalf on how he should approach the girl he’s engaged to in telling her to move on but of course I’ve got miss saieen here the master in disguise.

To clarify, those fathers are not in a hurry to get rid of their daughters. I don’t know why you would think that but maybe in your family that’s something your used to. It’s very had now days to find good men and to be honest I’m not one of them but my brother is. Secondly, what makes her family cheap is the fact that they avoid us in any way possible, refrain from inviting us over for dinner when other neighbours are, the list goes on.

The question we need to ask is what we learned about you from your post? I feel sorry for any one that has anything to do with you. You remind me of the type of person that reflects nothing but a negative shadow everywhere you go who has nothing good to say or do.

-point proven.

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Yeah as a few here have said, do the good deed and she should sit her down and explain, understandbly she will probably break down in tears, ask why, etc. etc. in due time she'll be able to reflect and understand it was better this way, than down the line once you'd exchanged rings.

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^^ Thanks for giving advice instead of ramping about how everything I said is wrong and isn't about the girls family but my family unlike miss saieen up there.

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rocky jokes apart n i have always helped u with ur stuck ups....

so with this one... i c ur saying the girls ok but her family panga kerti he....

if the hgirls f9 with ur fmaily n ur brother n herlove eahc other y wud u wanan break the engagment yar?

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no problemo. charity starts at home (which in 4 words is what you were simply trying to say).