Re: young women yearn for 1950s role as stay-at-home mums
Oh Faisal, you SO did not just say that!
You are going DOWN, my brother in Islam.
** Some women I know would work just for the sake of work.**
Yeah and?
** These are women who don't have to work, as they live in million dollar houses, drive latest Honda minivans paid for by their husbands and work as teacher's assistant or someother "job" which is probably just a half step above volunteer work. **
You tread in very murky waters, my friend. My mother is a teacher's assistance, you idiot of a man, you.
They get paid minimum pay, and almost all of it is either taxed away (on the married couple highest marginal tax rate) or paid to the nanny. Aray bhai.. what did you get out of it, except spending less time with your kids?
Here's why MY MOM works this job. It's not a dead end job AT ALL. By what you've written, it sounds to me like "Work if you can benefit me, or just sit at home". Which is SO the TYPICAL MALE desi attitude!!!
First off, my mother started working the job when both my sister and I were in school. She would get bored at home.
Let me intercede here and point out benefit 1: BEING PRODUCTIVE, AND AVOIDING BOREDOM IN THE HOUSEHOLD. Seriously, you should do a day of exchanging roles with YOUR wife and sit at home while she goes to your job just so you can see how boring it is to be home when your kids are older and off at school.
So she started off by volunteering at my sis's elementary school. From the volunteering, she found out about these teaching assistant positions, and since she liked working with the kids so much, she figured, why not get paid - she was volunteering throughout the whole school day anyway. She might as well get paid for it.
So you see, its quite damn different from being just a volunteer.
*And these are dead end jobs. Unless there is an future upswing potential, I call them "zabardasti ki job". *
I feel so like cursing you out, except that I know you and have some semblance of respect for you that just decreased like 98 percent. These are not dead end jobs. They are there because people need teaching assitants. FYI...a lot of people go forward with this and enter into teaching, so they go back to college to get their education degrees. Or they upgrade to being a substitute teacher. If DONE RIGHT, I think these jobs are really fulfilling. My mom gets to interact with so many cute little kids; she feels light and airy; she's not constantly on my father's case (something you will face when YOUR WIFE hits MENOPAUSE); etc etc.
That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard. Denouncing a job you're not interested in as a
zabardasti ka job!
They missed every single parent activity in their kids schools.
Bullcrap. She knows EVERY detail of my life, except my love life which she wont find out no matter how much of a sit at home mom she reverts back to.
In fact, I find it much easier to relate to her. Prior to her job, I had a lot of problems with her. MASSIVE problems. She was constantly interfering, I could never go to her with any school problems of any kind, and she was always meddling in my friendships, because she didn't have any friendships of her own! Now she has a social life at her school with her co-workers, she feels independent, she takes the money she makes and saves it and spends it on her luxuries here and there, so she doesn't burden my father with those things. And I've learned a lot of "life" lessons from her as well.
Take THAT!
