Wow you are cold. PLEASE don't do this ever again. If someone's mom is an important factor, please research on it before hand before getting emotionally involved.
The guy was the one who wasn't honest about his mom. As much as I was unhappy about his mom, I was more upset about his handling of the situation - he should have been honest about his mom wanting to choose her DIL. If she wasn't interested in my joining her family, she should have told her son or told my mom rather than coming to my home and disrespecting me and my family.
That is so unlike you, and I bet you're aware it is.
I'm the first one to be willing to make a joint family system work - I respect the importance a guy's parents have in his life. But if a woman comes into my home and disrespects me because I was her son's choice, then absolutely I'm going to respond in my own best interest.
I guess what I'm trying to demonstrate here is that there are times when a guy's mom really is that unkind and where a girl is justified in not liking her.
where did she say that she was 'emotionally' involved?
I was emotionally involved enough that it hurt me to hurt him when I said no. But was I in love with him - then no. I was able to pick myself up and meet other guys within weeks of it being over.
By all means please do, but make sure you do your research on his mom before he professes that he is crazy for you. And in case he mentions that will do whatever it takes to make it work, please do have some faith in him. Contrary to what you girls may think, guys have feelings too and you are marrying the guy, not his mom.
By all means please do, but make sure you do your research on his mom before he professes that he is crazy for you..
usually you meet a guys mom AFTER he professes that he is crazy about you, not before. That will be too much of a job that every time you come across a guy, instead of trying to know him, you started doing research on his mom. And what if mom is a nice person but she is just not in agreement with the choice of her boy. That situation will only become apparent when the boy announces his choice, which means that he is already crazy about you by then
and uh @sherysh
If I was in your shoes I would have married him despite the evil mother and try to give him a chance..only because I would be in love with him
I am assuming she was or at least led the guy on. Her words
Where's the bailan smiley? I DID NOT LEAD HIM ON! He decided a week after we met that he wanted to marry me! It was all over and done with in less than 2 months.
I was the one who kept telling him we both needed to take some time to get to know each other more or better before committing to marriage.
By all means please do, but make sure you do your research on his mom before he professes that he is crazy for you. And in case he mentions that he will do whatever it takes to make it work, please do have some faith in him. Contrary to what you girls may think, guys have feelings too and you are marrying the guy, not his mom.
LOL! You're not really comprehending the fact that HE lied or misled me about his mom. He expected me to live in a joint family system with a woman who clearly didn't want me to be her DIL - why would you pick your own spouse when your mom wants to control who you marry?
And I disagree, sure I'm marrying the guy. But unless I become a typical DIL who takes the son away from the mom as soon as she marries, then yes the MIL-DIL relationship does matter and it needs to be a positive one.
what?
I’m all for giving chances lol and I’m evil too I wouldn’t tolerate such an evil mother in law so I would tactfully make her fall in love with me
By all means please do, but make sure you do your research on his mom before he professes that he is crazy for you. And in case he mentions that he will do whatever it takes to make it work, please do have some faith in him. Contrary to what you girls may think, guys have feelings too and you are marrying the guy, not his mom.
Umm it's weird and slightly creepy to research someone's mother before they even show an interest in you. AND most moms aren't on facebook to be able to easily check out their life history.
While I'm sorry for the guy, what his mom said to S seems very strong and uncalled for.
Usually, the feelings are mutual.
Second, there is NO obligation to like them. Respect and care is another thing. You cannot just like someone.
Third, we could ask you, boys, your moms don't like us, do they?
By all means please do, but make sure you do your research on his mom before he professes that he is crazy for you. And in case he mentions that he will do whatever it takes to make it work, please do have some faith in him. Contrary to what you girls may think, guys have feelings too and you are marrying the guy, not his mom.
So, brilliant idea. Why doesn't said man tell his mom to back off and quit saying inappropriate things to brides-to-be.
Sorry, you cant have my son, cuz you dont speak the same language, so when I cuss you out, you wont know what I'm saying?
Oh my LORD. The guy who LETS his mom say that kind of stuff at the rishta table shows that his family situation is a little...messed up.
So, brilliant idea. Why doesn't said man tell his mom to back off and quit saying inappropriate things to brides-to-be.
Sorry, you cant have my son, cuz you dont speak the same language, so when I cuss you out, you wont know what I'm saying?
Oh my LORD. The guy who LETS his mom say that kind of stuff at the rishta table shows that his family situation is a little...messed up.
In all fairness, he wasn't there when his mom said those things - he was in the other room and I never told him everything she said even when he asked.
His mother was toxic enough that I refused to consider her son as husband material. I figure since I wasn't going to say yes, why tell him how horrid his mom was. She's his mom and he has to live with her. Let him believe she's great - he's got to maintain a relationship with her, I don't.
Oooo, i would have told him. He needs to know, if he's ignorant on this issue so at least he can talk to her. Otherwise, he's just gonna keep getting burned down the line.
Mmm mmm, I don't get why people think it's ok to come to some stranger's house and then insult them so, right in their own house.
pataa nahi yeah desi mard' maa'on se kyun paida hotay hain.
I propose for the happiness of our desi brides to be that all future desi males should be test tube babies. Na ho gi maa, na ho gi problem maasoom bahu ko.
1) He would call me the liar - since why believe me over his own mom, who does he have more history with? So what's the point of even having the conversation.
2) He would have said I misunderstood what his mom said and/or tried to excuse her behaviour. Then told me to get over it and still be hunky-dory with a joint family system.
3) He would have believed me, called his mother out on her behaviour and then I'd have an enemy for life, even before I married her son.
