Some, rather most of the posts in this thread are surprising. Once married, its almost silly to think in terms of your money and my money. Not only does it defeat the purpose of marriage, it also sows divisive seeds.
Whether or not a wife earns is a different matter, but I dont see how having to ask your husband for money is demeaning in any way. Being dependent on your husband is not a bad thing. Its a great thing. And that leads him to want to depend on you as well. That is what marriage is all about...sheesh!
My wife and I have both individual, and joint accounts. The joint account is for our savings (we are saving up for a house inshallah). Our individual accounts are from before marriage, and that is where our incomes go. I work full time, and my wife works part time. So we retain those accounts, but we dont really look at them as segregated funds.
I give my wife an agreed upon amount every month, part of which is her pocket money, and part is for the household expenses and bills. Apart from the bills and basic household expenses, I dont ask her how much she has saved, or where she has spent it. Its another matter that she herself likes to tells me what she bought, or how much she saved.
My point is, what the heck? married people should grow up at least!