You should check on your husbands call records

Shareen123 · June 16, 2014, 11:40am

Re: You should check on your husbands call records

Shareen, totally understandable. The turmoil you are going through is not unjustified. A broken trust can take forever to heal. So I for one, wouldnt say even for a minute to forget what happened.

However, please think of it like this : If you have decided to take him back , then sit alone one day and ask yourself to either forgive him completely or not forgive him at all. Dont keep yourself hanging in between. If you decide to forgive him, for various reason like, there is shaitaan always trying to ruin relationships , we are humans and can err etc , then please do so wholeheatedly not for him but for your own sake. Shaitan will keep on reminding you of all that happened , but dont let the thoughts ruin you.

I can sense from your post he is making an effort. Its a good sign. I think you should give him another chance but you can keep a vigilant eye on him until you feel you can trust him again.

Perhaps you can focus your energy on looking at his attitude , he’s trying to make it up to you and that should slowly build back your confidence in him.

Also try to strengthen your communication with each other. It wasnt your fault what happened, but finding out what made him do what he did , its important to get him to open up. If it hurts too much , its ok dont discuss what happened let that be buried in the past , that is the best strategy.

All the best , hope your inner strength guides you through this .

Thank you so much for your kind advice.