This may be a peculiar question, but I shall ask it anyway.
What is your usual immediate thought process upon noticing someone, whom you would consider attractive, glancing your way (more than once, perhaps even staring a little)?
How about when the person isn’t what you would consider attractive? What is your immediate thought process then?
I’m not sure if anyone will be so candid to even tell me, but I thought I’d ask anyway.
When I was in uni, one of my friends used to have the funniest reactions. Well at the time I thought it was funny. Anyway, upon seeing someone she found attractive noticing her, her eyes would light up, and she’d mention the person and how attractive he was, and something like, “can you believe he is looking at ME” (as if she was some hideous creature or something). She was very beautiful so it would surprise me that she would think like that (especially because at other times she would mention her beauty).
On the other hand, when someone she didn’t find appealing would stare at her, her first words were usually to the effect of, “Munni, did you see that guy looking at me up and down, what a pervert, how gross”. Now I was tempted to ask her if she thought the attractive ones were also perverts, but I never ventured to do so.
Why this bias? Is it being judgmental to think in that manner? To call one the pervert and think how disgusting he might possibly be, and then to think the other one a charmer because he fits an ideal of handsome? This is not to say I was and am never guilty of said practice, but I’d like to know if you all think similarly as my friend or just how you differentiate, if it all. Thanks.
Munni, I think how your friend reacted is how a lot of women, including me, would react. If someone good-looking actually notices me (which is very rare by the way), I'm like, "wow, he's looking at ME?!", and I'll be all pleased and happy, yet like Batameez, get very embarrased and shy at the same time. However, if it is someone unnattractive, I am so disgusted and usually give them a disgusted look in return. :D
I think what it comes down to is that we like the attention from guys we we approve of, but don't want the same attention from guys we don't fancy. Why? I dunno!
It is judgmental. My cousin (who is a guy) often criticizes me when I complain of only the unnattractive guys looking at me and points out that I would not be so unhappy if a hot guy behaved the same way around me.
I have to add that in my experience, it's even worse when you are stared up and down by women. I don't know why but women always stare at me ... in fact, a hell of a lot more than men. It is annoying and makes me very self-concious.
Hmmm.. wells it's very rare if ever anyone ever notices me in a flattering way ..like the Salman Ahmad story I mentioned before..
I'm always very flattered.. does not matter who notices me or how they look.
I usually smile back politely or even say hi ..and if they say something I will always thank them ...and maybe talk to them a little too.
Often I just get all self conscious and worse start blushing ..and usually at that moment I get really clumsy too. lol
Most times I have no idea anyone's looking and other people will point it out to me.
Ignore. On the rare occasions that a girl looks at me, and i aint interested. I am the low level of Swiss fashion and availability, because i dress like an american and dont shave. I just act like i dont notice.
Just a quick question do you girls get an ego boost when good looking guys look at you? And when weirdos as one person said look at you do you feel there is something wrong with you?
no matter how 'good looking' the other person is, if they r not looking at me respectfully i get disgusted infact i hardly ever get angry but this is one of the things that makes me so mad k i wanna kill the other person :)
Ok then why do girls feel disgusted if an "ugly" guy is looking at them. Btw irem it isnt that a guy may be looking at you in an indecent manner. Its the way you precieve it. I know many guys who can check out a girl without her even noticing. Its your perception which affects how you think someone is looking at you. He may not be checking you out, but you could think otherwise.
… sorry if my reply was of no help 
