(For #2) Sorry to hear about your sad life. Most of the comments you make about men are nothing but generalization. Coming from somebody who claims to call her self “educated”.
(For #1) Couple of my fellow young Pakistani doctor friends got married to gori girls and are happiest mash’allah. And what else? These goris went out of their way to learn religion and their obligation upon their husbands. They cook, clean, maintain their house as well as go out to work as well. And of course, my friends very well take care of themselves and love their wives to death.
So having said that, not everybody have some sort of negative motives.