Re: You Hate Your Friend
Monk, if you had problems getting 'rid' of girls that clung to you after you discover that you two are not 'friends' anymore, doesn't mean that you can generalize your experiences.
There are people I am "friends" with, but I'm not really fond of them. Honestly, I'm only "friends" with them, because they're the only muslims I know, and there are moments where their kindness shines. But there are moments where they act like bonified *icks, and what is a girl supposed to do except hate?
I have to meet with some of them this week. I'm thinking of not going. Because every time I meet with them, someone or the other says something retarded and it makes my blood boil.
I have no patience for morons.
So, what do I do? Please help? It's coming to a point where I'd like to tell them to their face "I don't like you at all - you're a jerk".
I have anger surges where I just want to punch one of 'em.
They're all nice to each other and they give each other high fives. You know - birds of a feather, flock together.
Should I keep meeting with these kids just because of a religious-cultural affinity, or drop them like a bad habit? Unfortunately, I introduced them to some charity work, that they've become engaged in, and if I want to continue working in the charity, I have to deal with these folks and just work...knowing that whatever work I do, some retarded kid is going to walk away with all the credit, because he has some official title and I don't.
I've been thinking of going rogue and starting my own projects in the community, and leaving these guys to go self-destruct due to their own internal inefficiencies.
Do I sound mean?
I hope so. Because I'm mad.
So go rogue then. Why not? You're not bound to them for life.......just because you share the same religion with them.
And even those individuals that you generally do like (such a best friend or favorite cousin/aunt, etc)..........WILL...........get on your nerves at times with moronic comments or actions. It's just human nature. We all do that. HOWEVER......if someone is grating on your nerves or offending you on a frequent and consistent basis...........................MAINTAIN A DISTANCE by all means :)
You've been to family events where people are generally of the same culture/religion................and there will be MANY relos that you might find irritating.........so you greet with a smile........utter a quick "How are you?".........and move on.
So, do the same. Be polite but make excuses that you're busy. Eventually, they'll see that you're so busy that they'll bug you less. Or politely refute their crazy narrow-minded ideas with Islamic references.
Don't lose your sawab by altogether ditching the charity because of a few incompatible individuals. Or as said earlier, start a philanthropic venture of your own.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
i'd go with choice b "dropping them like a bad habit"
you've got better things to do than listen to babbling grown up idiots.