Re: You Hate Your Friend
PCG you cant be more wrong.
Its our Indian spineless blood, where we have problem drawing lines and owning up.
Like dying to be with some one---cling him as a friend??? why not asking him out as BF. and if he doesn't own u up, how about moving on?
I have seen this desi-shyt enogh. I have not seen this in any culture where girls are allowed to have BF.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
Hey PCG..... why not laugh/make fun of them when they say something 'retarded'..... why do you get mad?
Do you actually give them a reaction? Some people say stuff just to get a rise out of you... maybe they're doing this on purpose.
there we go again.
In cross gender non-sexual relations is always a feel good chemical involved. Gander/sex plays a part. So its more pleasant. *I am not sure such companion ship can actually be called friendship. *
I be surprised if every girl who talks to me consider me a "friend". Because I consider them "a girl who talks to me"
I don't understand this at all!
What is so wrong or impossible about having a male friend? In fact they prove to be as much better friends because they're frank, to-the-point and honest whereas girls mostly kill time (and friendship) in comparing, *****ing, and not exposing their true side (which is mostly malicious)..I dont say ALL girls are like that but I find boys to be better than girls!
Why do you hate to use the word "friend"?
I mean, I hate to use the term "Friend" for her!
I mean, I hate to use the term "Friend" for her!
I don't understand this at all!
What is so wrong or impossible about having a male friend? In fact they prove to be as much better friends because they're frank, to-the-point and honest whereas girls mostly kill time (and friendship) in comparing, *****ing, and not exposing their true side (which is mostly malicious)..I dont say ALL girls are like that but I find boys to be better than girls!
I am not surprised that coming from a girl.
First I haven't seen a cross gender friend-ship as good as same gender ones. Its mostly girls clinging to boys.
Second guys TALK SHYT about girls who are not related to them. Only we have a code. Girls wont know it.
Third boys who take girl out without a commitment. Don't respect them!!!!!!!!! The way they would respect their future wife. Mind it, being polite and friendly is not equal to respecting in a manner you deserve.
Forth in case you have many male friends. Your best bet is to find a hubby among one of them.
We guys are not into figuring out your different level of affection towards men. So a guy outside of your immidiate circle is going to look at you as TAKEN!!! If not by a man then taken by many men.
Fifth. Normally the girls who hang out with guys are not normally very attractive. Other wise they wont be single for a long time.
Second guys TALK SHYT about girls who are not related to them. Only we have a code. Girls wont know it.
That is unfortunately true .... my husband and brother both have told me that :(
(And they're both the open-minded, liberal type.)
That is unfortunately true .... my husband and brother both have told me that :( (And they're both the open-minded, liberal type.)
thing every sorry women would disagree on it.
And will insist she stumble upon the best behaved men in the world.
This girl, my brother dated/wanted-to-marry annoy him to death with his male-friends.
I mean whats stopping you from marrying them why comming after my little brother?
Oh wait you are a sorry reject to your male friends.
I am not surprised that coming from a girl.
First I haven't seen a cross gender friend-ship as good as same gender ones. Its mostly girls clinging to boys.
Second guys TALK SHYT about girls who are not related to them. Only we have a code. Girls wont know it.
Third boys who take girl out without a commitment. Don't respect them!!!!!!!!! The way they would respect their future wife. Mind it, being polite and friendly is not equal to respecting in a manner you deserve.
Forth in case you have many male friends. Your best bet is to find a hubby among one of them. We guys are not into figuring out your different level of affection towards men. So a guy outside of your immidiate circle is going to look at you as TAKEN!!! If not by a man then taken by many men.
Fifth. Normally the girls who hang out with guys are not normally very attractive. Other wise they wont be single for a long time.
I don't have 'many' male friends but the ones I had (college over dosti over!) were more of a brotherly nature and I wouldn't ever believe whatever you said about guys' mentality being held true for them..but I wouldn't disbelieve your research either..
Not all girls 'cling' or 'hang out' with boys all the time with flirtatious intentions, there are these girls who behave cordially with boys on professional terms provided they're decent and mature enough! The type of girls you cited are what we call 'bimbettes' and not all girls are like that!
I don't have 'many' male friends but the ones I had (college over dosti over!) were more of a brotherly nature and I wouldn't ever believe whatever you said about guys' mentality being held true for them..but I wouldn't disbelieve your research either..
Not all girls 'cling' or 'hang out' with boys all the time with flirtatious intentions, there are these girls who behave cordially with boys on professional terms provided they're decent and mature enough! The type of girls you cited are what we call 'bimbettes' and not all girls are like that!
First.
1-The girl who called me brother-like in front of her aunt. Also told me how often she trimmed down there.
She cooked for me when no one was home we ate and drank wine together.
When allah said "so called relation are not respectable there must be a reason"
I did not want to ruin her life that why I did NOT bang. She did not let go. Kept calling.
Finally she earned my respect by telling me
a-her hubby knows me as her friends.
b-if hubby says no she wont talk to me.
My friends Ex. She is My "good" freind.
2-She wants me to come to her place when hubby is not home, not for sex. but to collect food she wants to cook for me.
Atleast 3 times we spoked about her boobs thoroghly. when she wasnt married.
3-Sorrier of all. a women who is like 60 still wants boys around. cooked for me. Then tried to touch me.
She too is BIG supporter of male-female friendship.
I mean if a girl is dying to have boys around the got to be a reason. I mean that friends only BULL-**** only flies with parents.
Second.
I deal with women at my work at all the time. I know what decent relation with woman is.
The girls hanging out boys is NOT one of them!!!
Girls do cling a lot.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
First- Your experiences cannot be generalized for the entire womankind!
Second :- Whatever you think/ believe is okay as long as one's not "forced" to believe so!
Third- Why am I explaining so much?
Fourth:- You don't know me.
Okay the third question is for me to answer but seriously speaking, it hurts to see how boys "love" thinking about girls and be merry about their perceptions and assumptions even when our intentions are pure enough!
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Like when I female dog wants to mate her body release a chemical which a dog can smell from miles away.
So for guys its NOT hard to spot a woman who is "looking".
No matter how brotherly stories she crafts!!!!!!
(Now in DESI culture looking could be "friendship" with out benefits.)
In non dating desi culture. Women have hard time to take a man. So they put up a million acts to have men around them
And I am ONLY talking about the women who are exposed to all that flirty feel good companion-ship of man.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
Why do you look down upon the women so much, man??
It's like that hypocritical culture of ours, you see a guy among 5 girls and you think he's smart and lucky but you see a girl talking to a boy at one corner and assume she is going out with him?
I find that "brotherly story craft" thing highly distasteful...You're including all the women among the ones you've come across and it's unintelligible to me how a sane poster like you could come up with such explanations!
Your posts in this thread are highly inflammatory and I'd never expected this out of YOU!
Why do you look down upon the women so much, man??
It's like that hypocritical culture of ours, you see a guy among 5 girls and you think he's smart and lucky but you see a girl talking to a boy at one corner and assume she is going out with him?
I find that "brotherly story craft" thing highly distasteful...You're including all the women among the ones you've come across and it's unintelligible to me how a sane poster like you could come up with such explanations!
Your posts in this thread are highly inflammatory and I'd never expected this out of YOU!
Well I don't know where you were raised OR how shallow your knowledge about guys is.
But here is thing.
The guy who is surrounded by girls all the time, we call him sissy and pimpish.
Its funny how you changed "brotherly" business to being "lucky"
I don't think I need to say any more. You just proved your hypocrisy and mostly my points.
Friends ship is always a cover in desi culture.
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I didn't change anything in my posts but maybe you were too quick to manipulate?
I'm glad I wasn't raised in your kinda culture! ...I just hope you get the right girl so your venomous posts against the ladies would come to an end!
Re: You Hate Your Friend
ok let me tell you one tale.
Its not real its from movie.
This guy in his 30s gets stuck in teen party. He had a previous drinking problem.
Wife had told him never to drink.
But he did. He got so drunk and thought every one was going streaking.
So he takes his cloths off, start running on the street THINKING he is leading a race. A naked race.
His wife finds him, ask him "why running naked". He goes "every one is, look behind me"
Need less to say he was alone.
Now I hope the culture you follow and place you live there are other girls following same patterns.
Other wise its going to be one girl earning strange reputation living in some delusion.
Aadios.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
Sometimes its better to just let people be the way they are. If you get angry around them, then it is better for you to not be in that company even if they think you are being mean or smtng. Nothing's worst that hanging around with people you don't feel comfortable with. Now there will always be times when you will HAVE to interact w/ them for work, volunteer etc. but just keep it to the point. It's better to let the aquaintances KNOW that they are nothing more than that.
Re: You Hate Your Friend
First of all, cool down people :)
Secondly, it doesn't matter how respectable the girl is or what her intentions are, 'most' guys will always talk trash about her if she's seen in male company (no matter how innocent)..... ALWAYS. It doesn't matter if she's a farishtaa larki, they will always say stupid things.... its desi men's mentality and all girls should know that by now. That guy who you think is your best friend might even respect you secretly, but in front of others he will also trash talk and throw around gossip with weird connotations.... its a guy thing and there's nothing we women can do about it.
So, if you care about people saying trashy things behind your back, don't hang around with guys.... if you don't care, then to hell with them.... have as many friends as you like and hang around with them. Just my two cents :)
I don't understand this at all!
What is so wrong or impossible about having a male friend? In fact they prove to be as much better friends because they're frank, to-the-point and honest whereas girls mostly kill time (and friendship) in comparing, *****ing, and not exposing their true side (which is mostly malicious)..I dont say ALL girls are like that but I find boys to be better than girls!
thumbs-up
Re: You Hate Your Friend
I SO KNOW that! There's a person at my school she's in the same class as I am and she annoys me, makes my blood boil most of the time, I have to FOCE MYSELF to not freak out whenever she points out my mistakes(by that I mean that she is constantly telling me what's right/wrong) and acts like she knows everything better etc. Or lectures me on religion etc.
Thing with her is she is the only other hijaabi in my grade so I guess that's why I hang out with her. To me she is NO friend, she's simply a sister in Islam and I don't believe I can ever be truly fond of her.
Yesterday she said some REALLY nasty thing to me and I just don't know how to act around her now... :S
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Just like I said, sorry women all for male friends.
Who by the way never find sorry women of any more use then "ghumana phirana"
and that too because our clinging queens cant let go.