Re: "you cant do that with your wife"
hunh???? no wonder on average you see 5-6 kids in Pakistani families.
well if you do a little analysis then it will get obvious for that Islam that goes from an individual to ummah, when people dont follow it in fact become hypocrit then as ALLAH SWT said in Quran Suran Bakarah ayat 8-10
"And of mankind, there are some (hypocrites) who say: "We believe in Allah and the Last Day" while in fact they believe not.
They (think to) deceive Allah and those who believe, while they only deceive themselves, and perceive (it) not!
In their hearts is a disease (of doubt and hypocrisy) and Allah has increased their disease. A painful torment is theirs because they used to tell lies."
so people are left to wander behind these addictions.