I have heard from many of my married friends in pakistan that you can not enjoy your married life in pakistan in the way that people would enjoy with a girlfriend or someone living in the west. they say that you can not do or discuss things with them that are taboo. you have to be very conservative in your sexual relations etc etc.
is that really so? i thought the basic purpose of marriage was to make sure that you both took every possible step to accomodate each other. if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
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Well, I wouldn't generalise that no married couple in Pakistan is having fun.
Depends alot on the couple, their education, families etc. But there are some stupid issues though e.g. you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
What happens in the cozy darkness of the bedroom is another story though and varies ;)
Waise I do hope desi couples make out ??
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What is your secret sexual fantasy?
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^ lolz....:)
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lol - such silliness!
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The thing is people talk when you tell aunties your bed life. Do not tell the Spanish inquisition and every thing will be fine!
if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
exactly! if both couples are educated enough (religion wise) then I can bet they have more fun than regular couples ;)... if 1 is educated, he/she should politely educate the other, that's how marriage works. unfortunately, we desis are just too shy... dunno why...
But there are some stupid issues though e.g. you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
in Islam it's not jaiz to make out in public (showing affection)
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Looks like people have gone mad in general :no:
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^ lack of food in stomach leads to craziness in the brain :)
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I see 
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^^^Marwah- your avatar looks like it is auditioning for a part in a Bollywood song:D.
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^psh, bollywood couldn't get a hold of him if they tried :P
you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
Wife kissing in secluded spot in a park is only necessary when its not your wife you are kissing. Apni wife ko araaam se ghar laa ke kiss ker lo. itni jaldi kis baat kee hai
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^LOL, a friend of mine used to say about couples holding hands in Bagh-e-Jinah,
"Hath enj pharya so, jiveiN dour challi ae" (Hath aisey pakra howa hai, jaisey bhaag jaye gi)
I think it would all matter on frankness between the couple and what they're comfortable with.
I have heard from many of my married friends in pakistan that you can not enjoy your married life in pakistan in the way that people would enjoy with a girlfriend or someone living in the west. they say that you can not do or discuss things with them that are taboo. you have to be very conservative in your sexual relations etc etc. is that really so? i thought the basic purpose of marriage was to make sure that you both took every possible step to accomodate each other. if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
I've heard that girls get scared of being too "eager" because the guy can suspect them of being with a guy before, or if later on, they are too willing or have high sex drives...the husband (or others) will think badly of them.
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^Which is pretty sad actually. In fact, one of the husband's duty in Islam is caring for the sexual fulfillment of his wife.
Instead, I feel as if our culture has made that haram.
Waise I do hope desi couples make out ??
Sure. Just not with each other :D