In my family’s case I don’t think this is true. All of the married kids in my family are independent and with an exception to one of my cousins, all of the guys are quite liberal. I haven’t heard my SILs complain about that. I have seen this with some of my friends though, their inlaws are quite strict and in some cases even more than they are with their own daughters. I think it depends from family to family. One of my cousins in Dubs does have this though, she’s not even allowed to be wearing certain colours at certain times of the year. I’m not sure and no white in any form, western or desi. They give her “hazar baat” to hear if she does even if her husband says who cares.. So I think it really depends. Their daughter is just such a sweet and good girl in general so she never strays to far but in some cases she has done what she wanted but they only give my cousin a hard time mostly in lecturing forms.