Aaze
February 23, 2014, 7:02pm
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re: “You Can Do Whatever You Want After You’re Married”
well it depends on who you marry. Prior to marriage, I wasn’t allowed to travel alone, and was always told as well “shaadi ke baad apnay husband ke saat ghoomna” but my ammi never stopped me from socializing or going out with my friends or taking day trips for rafting/hiking etc. I married by choice, so I guess that made it easier for me. He loves to travel as well, and we lived alone, not with his mom or family so we pretty much did and continue to do what we want, how we want. I can’t remember a single time my mom ever interfered or told me what to do after shaadi. His mom also never really had an impact on our decisions.
Within our first 5 years of marriage we went to Pakistan 3 times to see his mom, and on the way of those trips would break our journeys in Paris, London, Frankfurt, Zurich & Geneva (wherever the flights were having stopovers) After kids, we took a trip to Spain, alone, just the two of us, and know we’re planning a family vacay to Turkey.
He had taken guy trips alone without me and I have also taken girls only trips with my friends.
So yea, if you’re going the arranged marriage, joint family living route, you may not have the same opportunities as you can take when you’re single.
My college age single cousins and niece all have taken advantage of study abroad semesters while still in uni. I guess it all depends on the norms of your family.
Pretty much this.
By the time the idea of travelling with friends came into my brain - I was already hitched so it never became an issue as such because husband doesn’t mind it. We’ve travelled a lot together, each with our friends or in groups and taken semesters or summer courses abroad due to studies and interests. All is well.