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4 wives-in-a-go? 
zera ye baat explain karain baki baatain baad main. 
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lolllllll…
correction: 4 wives in a row… 
sounds better?
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Prostitution happens to be the oldest profession around.. it won't die.
Satti = Burning women alive who have LOST their husbands. That is like comparing dead with those who are alive. How can you even compare or say that since satti is no longer practiced, same could happen with men marrying multiple women RATHER THAN women who cannot find husbands going into prostitution, online sex play (as it already happens) and become a whore, a burden to the society and the culture?
Marrying multiple women by legally binding contract which is accepted all over the world IS NOT SAME as Slavery... again, where is the comparision in that?
Ever seen someone who is a clerk marrying more than 1 woman? No. Ever seen somebody rich having 1, 2, 3 or 4 wives? Yes, why? Because 1)they can afford it, 2) they can provide better quality of life to both women, 3) can treat each women equally, 4) have the physical strength to satisfy their natural needs, 5)saved the 2nd woman from going into less appealing profession.
Islam allows 4 women for a man (with proper conditions and laws in place) FOR A REASON only if Muslim women could understand that... only if.
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Yes, infect I have only seen poor and frustrated people doing this. None of my educated and well off relatives have ever married more than one woman. While one far relative is married to three woman and he pays for only one of them, the one he lives with because with his clerical job he can’t afford to pay for the other two. And another person I know has two wives and does not pay for either one of them because he is a tableeghi who never works. One wife’s living expenses are being taken care by tablighi guy’s old father and the other wife’s expenses are being take care by her own family. My father knew a fifty year old man married to a 12 year old girl to support her financially. Is that the only way for financial support ? He could have adopted her as she was younger than his children. The young wife ran away with a nokar after few years of marriage. How much support did he provided her?
I have only seen people manipulating this privilege. & I do not care about what and why they did it because none of it has affected me but just telling you that YES , I have seen only poor and less educated people with multiple wives.
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Islam being the easy going religion that it is gives us many options but it does not mean that those options are for everybody or everybody must utilize them. Islam gives me the option of remarrying if my husband becomes impotent or dies. God forbid in any of those situations I will not be utilizing that option because there are so many other ways to be sexy (in first situation) and true love is above sex anyway (in second situation).
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I do not see any reason why someone would must need my husband.
Ratio of men & women is not 1:4 and I do not think it ever will be because now people have the choice of choosing their baby’s sex.
If in a war like situation things get this bad that this world is a testing place anyway. I know women who were widowed young or never married and still lived pious lives. Sex is not food or water that one will die without. If somebody’s lust is greater than their Iman than that is not my problem. No one is touching my man.
Financial support can be given without marrying a woman. Women now a days are working in every field of life anyway.
In short, I do not see any valid reasons for a sotun and unless I am in an asylum, vegetative state or grave my husband should not marry another woman.
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I rather he not because I know that if he did our marriage would end up in divorce...NOT because I think it's wrong but more because I know myself...I would not be able to bear the thought of the man I love being with another woman........basically I would end up giving him a hard time...there would be no peace or harmony left within our marriage. Simply put....I wouldnt be very happy and everyone would know it!
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if he ever marry’s another…i feel sorry for her
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A muslim married man cannot get married to a woman without his wife's permission. If he does then his 2nd marriage wont be valid.
If my husband asks my permission for his 2nd marriage......I'll let him do that ........
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Prostitution happens to be the oldest profession around.. it won't die.
Satti = Burning women alive who have LOST their husbands. That is like comparing dead with those who are alive. How can you even compare or say that since satti is no longer practiced, same could happen with men marrying multiple women RATHER THAN women who cannot find husbands going into prostitution, online sex play (as it already happens) and become a whore, a burden to the society and the culture?
Marrying multiple women by legally binding contract which is accepted all over the world IS NOT SAME as Slavery... again, where is the comparision in that?
Ever seen someone who is a clerk marrying more than 1 woman? No. Ever seen somebody rich having 1, 2, 3 or 4 wives? Yes, why? Because 1)they can afford it, 2) they can provide better quality of life to both women, 3) can treat each women equally, 4) have the physical strength to satisfy their natural needs, 5)saved the 2nd woman from going into less appealing profession.
Islam allows 4 women for a man (with proper conditions and laws in place) FOR A REASON only if Muslim women could understand that... only if.
Is it 4 wives or 5 wives? as I heard they say 5 wives are allowed.
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So do I… So do I … 
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I wouldnt mind.
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If some woman needs my husband than I can find dozens of men who would be needing me too. If he is willing to accept a male sotun only than I will accept his idiotic idea of marrying another woman. YUCK
:D right,that should be the spirit
ur name suits u lot...LAl MIRCH :D
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lets say ur hubby wants to have a second wife. he says he will give u the same life as before, ur own house, expenses etc. just that he wants to marry another woman whom he thinks needs him. or wateva. wud u agree? or wud u rather go for a divorce?
no way, gonna divorce him n get another hubby!
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it is very insensitive to even think of any other person to become your husband's spouse or have espoused someone from before, so the best thing is to leave him to the other woman and also leave him all alone.
Re: wud u accept a souten? :D
it is very insensitive to even think of any other person to become your husband's spouse or have espoused someone from before, so the best thing is to leave him to the other woman and also leave him all alone.
i prefer to show him dat i got another one who is the best than him!
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It all depends on the situation. When I was battling infertility, I started looking for a second wife for my hubby. Not that he wanted this....I wanted it for HIM - because I wanted him to have the ultimate blessing of procreation. Thank goodness, I was able to give him our boyz but if that didnt happen, I'd still want him to have that. Thats one case. Another would be if there were a truly great need for some woman to have a husband - ie., world famine, natural disaster, war-time.
An over-active libido IMHO just isnt an excuse. That would be a reason to toss the guy out on his arse. And sorry but thats really the only thing I've personally seen in cases where theres more than one wife.
I've tried to bring this up before and I got beat up (from the guys - surprise surprise) - but there ARE islaamic reasons/requirements to have a second wife. And "being able to share yourself" just is NOT a good enuf reason.
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A muslim married man cannot get married to a woman without his wife's permission. If he does then his 2nd marriage wont be valid. If my husband asks my permission for his 2nd marriage......I'll let him do that ........
some scholars would disagree with that.
and more power to you for agreeing to let him marry another....i couldnt do it. You are a stronger woman then I.
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It all depends on the situation. When I was battling infertility, I started looking for a second wife for my hubby. Not that he wanted this....I wanted it for HIM - because I wanted him to have the ultimate blessing of procreation.
so why not just let him go....why become a 2nd wife?.....were the two of you not emotionally able to do that?
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He is the love of my life, my prince charming. Selfish as that may be....no way did I want to give him up. And no way did I want him to have to give up having his own biological child because I malfunctioned. Simple as that.
and ps, i wouldnt have become the "second wife"....I'm number one lol! Its the OTHER one that woulda been the second!!!
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Given that he's has re-married without my consent, then there isn't much i can do about it. However, he MUST treat both of us equally..if he can do justice to both of us, then i wouldn't have a problem.
Plus, If Islam allows it, then sure why not...who am I to question it? Ofcourse, as a woman, i would hate to share my husband with someone else, but still i wouldn't want to end my marriage because of it, especially if kids are involved.
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OK this is not just another cliche type of a question, but really, it's beyond me;
how do u 'share' someone you love and that loves you?
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He is the love of my life, my prince charming. Selfish as that may be....no way did I want to give him up. And no way did I want him to have to give up having his own biological child because I malfunctioned. Simple as that.
and ps, i wouldnt have become the "second wife"....I'm number one lol! Its the OTHER one that woulda been the second!!!
I figured that was your reason for allowing him to marry another wife. One have to be very strong to allow another women to enter the home.
Given that he's has re-married without my consent, then there isn't much i can do about it. However, he MUST treat both of us equally..if he can do justice to both of us, then i wouldn't have a problem. Plus, If Islam allows it, then sure why not...who am I to question it? Ofcourse, as a woman, i would hate to share my husband with someone else, but still i wouldn't want to end my marriage because of it, especially if kids are involved.
a man that takes on another wife without discussing it with his first wife shows no regard for her feelings.....so why would one want to be with a man like this? In my opinion...there IS something that can be done about it!
you are right...Islam does allow it.....but for some it's not about questioning the rights that Allah has given man...it's about whether or not a marriage can survive it.....whether or not a wife can accept another woman to enter the marriage without feeling any jealousy, without feeling any competition, etc.
OK this is not just another cliche type of a question, but really, it's beyond me;
how do u 'share' someone you love and that loves you?
It's a right that Allah has given man....and in my opinion should not be questioned