Wrong Image

Lifestyle Relationships
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What would you do if someone had a wrong image of you?

Would you sort it out or would you let it go thinking “thats life”

Is it our responsibility to make sure people do not come to unreasonable conclusions about us? Or is that being too sensitive?

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honestly I have a couple people who have the wrong image of me, but now I am beginning to realize, well, that is the way they think of me, let them, inshallah, some day in the future they will see the real me and like me because of who I am, sometimes in life you make dumb decisions and you pretend to be something that you're not because you believe that character (who you are pretending to be) is easier to understand...You know when it all boils down you just have to be yourself.

Anyways, that is my take on wrong images people have.

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Yeah but should we go out of our way to clear things up?

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'out of the way' is subjective.....different to different people......

there needs to 'some' effort to clear misconceptions other might have...you might be missing out on great relationship with people....

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True but if they were so quick to judge...isnt it their loss?

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I think it depends on if you are willing to work to try to change a persons way of thinking about you even though you know that it is all up to them, I personally think if you don't like the image which you have portrayed to someone than just work to change the way you act around them, be the best person you can be and hope that the rest will take care of itself?

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I'll give a shot at clarifying my position but sometimes no matter how hard you try, people wont change their mind about you. If they're not important enough, I wouldn't let it bother me so much.
If it's someone I really care for then i would be more persistent. Then again, if they're close enough to me they would know the real me without me having to explain much.

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I'd say it's being too sensitive. Some people judge too much, some come to conclusions too quickly, how many times can one make sure that no one gets the wrong idea about you.
I have learned to ignore, because when you try too hard to make that image good again or clear up the misunderstandings, sometimes you just end up making a fool of yourself. The best thing is to be yourself in front of those people, they'll realize they were wrong about you sooner or later.
However, if you think there has been a major major misunderstanding, then you should try to clear it up, if the other person reciprocates positively - good, if not - let it go.
Then again, if every other person or most people get that same image of you, then may be they aren't just unreasonable conclusions.

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I knew you would follow my advice...:)

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Okay so im one of those people who gets bothered when someone has the wrong impression of me, i mean i don’t digest it easily. Mostly i try to clear the air but if it doesn’t work then i move on and make myself accept the fact.

P.S. Yes it is a lil sensitive :hinna:

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Some people will have the wrong image of you no matter what you do...or how hard you try to fix it.
I know some people might not have the image of me I want them to have and it hurts at times too..but life is too short for me to go and fix things with them..As Reha said,it is their loss...!!

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I would never :snooty:

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Well my image is such that frankly I couldn't care what people thought about me so long as they understood a few basic points... :)

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What if they're not really all that close to you...they're a friendly acquaintance. Does it matter what they think?

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I think it can depend upon the situation and who that person is. For example, you may not be overly close with your coworkers, but you might want to clear up any misunderstandings you think that they have about you because you have to work with them and don't want any negative vibes. And with people whom you DO already have a close relationship with...you want to clear up misunderstandings to maintain that bond. In cases...where you'll be forming new relationships (marriage)...then I don't think it's unreasonable to want to clarify wrong impressions/

If you know you've hurt someone (regardless of who it is)....and mistakes happen, sometimes we can be irritable...then try to sort things out.

However....I feel that if you've made the effort to be nice to someone (not talking about bending over backwards) and they persist in treating you like chit....then I think it may be indicative of a self-esteem issue if you can't let that go and are still trying hard to win their approval.

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Ah Redvelet, everytime I see your user name I think of a red velvet cupcake.

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I'm a complete sucker at clearing up my name. I die inside as soon as I realize someone thinks a certain way of me. I feel like I'll be misunderstood and I don't want them to think I'm a certain way if I'm really not.
But when what they think is true, then I keep quite (like me being too bossy/controlling) lol

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Omg, so do I!

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absolutely nothing.

neither i will try to make things work out nor i will think that its a part of life.
I will take it as one less person to worry about.

my mother says its my responsilibitly that people think good about me. but she dont know that i remember her words cuz she is important to me. i give her my time and attention. and I am not same with everyone.

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i have stopped bothering about it...let them think whatever they think..i know what i m and thats enough for me..