However....I feel that if you've made the effort to be nice to someone (not talking about bending over backwards) and they persist in treating you like chit....then I think it may be indicative of a self-esteem issue if you can't let that go and are still trying hard to win their approval.
The person hasnt really treated me badly...just different than how they used to. I feel the difference and I know somethings up but not sure if its worth getting into because its not like I am super close to them or anything. I feel like its my responsibility to fix it but on the other hand...something inside me says if they were so quick to form an opinion................is it worth it?
There's this quote I love from the Harry Potter series...If you're holding out for universal popularity, I'm afraid you will be in this cabin for a very long time.
I think it's from Goblet of Fire.
Sometimes, no matter how inoffensive, non-intrusive, civil etc. we are, there are some people who just go out of their way to see the negative in whatever we do. Wanna know what to do about it? Nothing. There's no help for people like this. After years and years of dealing with people who constantly see the bad and apologizing and trying to turn myself inside out to be something more palatable to them, it finally hit me. There is no pleasing them. So now I do what pleases me as long as I'm not going against what I learned in the Quran.
What would you do if someone had a wrong image of you?
Would you sort it out or would you let it go thinking "thats life"
Is it our responsibility to make sure people do not come to unreasonable conclusions about us? Or is that being too sensitive?
it is our responsibility to make sure others dont make unreasonable conclusions about us but....
if someone had a wrong image of me then i would probably sort it out only if that person is nice and sincere to me. (and i am not going to explain myself again and again...only once or max twice...rest it will be up to them if they understand my point or not)
i wont sort it out at all with those who likes to think wrong about me because it pleases them or since they are jealous etc etc. sorting out with them wont do any good since in the end they will still have the same thinking.
overall i do what i think is good (considering religion and parents/values). those who know that i am doing good will agree with me automatically and those who again knows i havenot done anything bad will point fingers at me. also i just care for my parents i have their approval for something i do it without bothering about what others will think.
The person hasnt really treated me badly...just different than how they used to. I feel the difference and I know somethings up but not sure if its worth getting into because its not like I am super close to them or anything. I feel like its my responsibility to fix it but on the other hand...something inside me says if they were so quick to form an opinion................is it worth it?
If you're not close to them, if you don't work with them....then let it go. If you feel that this person might spread things about you...then you can make the effort to clarify things....if they persist in being b*%&$y, then move on. I don't think there's anything wrong with making at least one effort to sort things out....that does not mean that you have low self-esteem, etc. It's when you can't let things go, that there's a problem. But that's not the case here.
What would you do if someone had a wrong image of you?
Nothing whatsoever.
Would you sort it out or would you let it go thinking "thats life"
That's life. I have better things to do with my time.
Is it our responsibility to make sure people do not come to unreasonable conclusions about us? Or is that being too sensitive?
That's being too sensitive. People shouldn't be so quick with coming to conclusions without getting to 'know' someone. That's not my problem. I am sure these are the people I can do without in my life.
Depends who the people are and how much they mean to you!
Plus how many peoples misconceptions can you fix? the world is very quick to analyze, judge and often make misconceptions - and to hate for that matter.
You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time
i'm of the opinion be true to oneself, others are secondary. People will always draw their own conclusions and see you in which ever light they wish, good or bad.
