Re: Wrong girl for brother
I would tell my mom, for sure. This behavior isnt self-contained. It affects those around him, including you and your parents because people will talk, and not only that, but other people, like his friends can be influenced by his actions. If a muslim is doing something wrong, they are supposed to be told about it, end of.
You talking to your brother wont have that big of an effect. I used to talk to my brother about certain things but the effect it had was nothing like the effect of a chat with my parents.
Some people are saying hes an adult he can do what he wants. I totally disagree with that, because his actions are affecting more than just himself, and again, as a muslim you need to speak out when such things are going on. His mother raised him for 21 years and now people want to exlude her from what her son is doing? Absolutely not. I dont care if my son is 50, if he is going around making a bad name for himself and his family, I sure as heck am going to talk to him about it. In the end the decision is his to take my advice or not. We are somewhat responsible for how we raise our children. So dont be afraid of your brother getting upset at you. My brother has gotten upset at me for certain things as well but later he got over it, and vice versa.
Spending the night at a hotel with the opposite sex is just plain wrong. The fact that it has even gotten to that level is a red flag.
If he decides to rebel later, thats his thing, but he needs a long chat with your mom.
I totally agree... you need to tell you parents.. especially your mom. Think about it even if he rebels I'm sure somewhere along the line he will realize.. what he does now to his parents will not only hurt him in this duniyah but the akhirat as well. Let him understand that also. You should let him know.. listen... I've tried talking to you and explaining to you what your getting yourself into... since your not understanding im going to mom".
ANdddddd seriously.... if worst comes to worst and he's upset with and stops talking to you... its okay... b/c 1) he'll eventually get over it... and probably will even really appreciate it
2) your going to have your bro be upset with you.. not your MOM... pleaseee don't upset or hurt your parents by hiding soemthign so big and having their son doo so much behind their back
3) if yor intentions are good, Allah (swt) will reward you immensly in this duniyah and akhirat and will insha Allah bless you with rightous and pious kids of your own. Ameen
so go for it.
*he's 21 ... which means nothing..... *
He's a Muslim brother risking his life here and the in the afterlife. That's everything.
May Allah (Swt) make it easy for you and your family. Ameen