Re: Wrong girl for brother
AoA XoXo,
God Forbid, God Forbid if my brother/ sisters was ever in such a situation (Allah na kare again), the thing that would sadden and probably lead me into depression the most (as kufr as that may be) would be that fact that they are committing such a HUGE sin! it would make no difference had the girl been urdu speaking or not-so-clingy!
In the Quran, Allah SWT tells us to not even go "near" zina (it doens't just say dont commit the sin)... so all actions that may lead to us a sin are to be avoided.
You should make your utmost efforts in guiding your brother out of this sinful life and show him how huge his sins are! Everything you have mentioned are actions that are completely not allowed in Islam, and somehow u have to make efforts to knock this fact into his head!
Start off with subtle things like taking him to Islamic lectures that are particularly on this topic, at times, they have 2/3 days camps where a lot of Muslim brothers would get together for fun while instilling the concepts of Deen into the next generation... maybe that might help... remind him of death, none of us have a guarenete of living till tomorrow so what kinda account is he going to face Allah SWT with? Maybe once in a while u can show him an ayat or an ahadith that gets him thinking about his actions! maybe give him a pamphlet or something on the topic so he can read it in his own time.
This girl doesn't have a good track record, so unless she does dramatically change, she isn't going to be good for his deen or dunya, hence I cant see how marriage is the right way to go about it! However, if he still insists, then yes maybe suggest marriage.... at least it'll put an end to his sinful relationship with this girl!
And make lots and lots of dua for him!!! there are a few duas one can read in times of stress, as well as stuff life namaz-e-haajat.
Again, no need to get on his back too much, be subtle about it and continue to love and show your support to him... but if he doesn't change his ways, then let him be, continue to pray for him, but dont break your relationship. Inshallah sooner then later he will realise his mistakes.
And I do think you should (perhaps as a last resort) TELL YOUR MUM ABOUT HIM! she will reject the girl... but what choice does she have right? either she accepts her as a bahu or her son will continue his current lifestyle!
I pray that all goes well for you and your family, Amin. May Allah SWT protect the Iman of each and every Muslim brohter and sister, Amin.
. But that is one way to do things hope this helps.