Why don’t more desi people write shaadi vows?
Is it because:
it’s a gora people thing
it’s lame to express your feelings for each other in front of others
it would make our guests uncomfortable (you know our aunties and unkles)
it’s point gets lost in desi culture because many of our weddings are arranged, so you don’t know each other that well
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What's the point in writing your vows...usually they are common sense you should remember anyways.
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No, the stuff bride and groom come up with creatively for each other for the wedding day. One of my friends spent about 2 weeks writing with her most fond memories of them and stuff.
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Like thou shalt only use premium gas for my car? That kinda stuff?
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This is gonna sound mean…but…
…they write their vows and STILL look at the divorce rate.
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it's lame to express your feelings. PERIOD.
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Lol stoppit!! :D
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haha I love RV's answer.
What's the point Gaia? And I guess it is also because Allah prescribed the proper way to go about marrying. It's preceded by a dua/ayats from quran, the qubool bit and then a dua in majalis (company)
The goras have new year's resolutions as vows too :) What vows do they really listen to. What's the point of declaring vows in front of an audience? You are getting married to each other for each other no? You can write your own vow/love letter type thing and give it to your husband, what's the point of reading it in front of an audience? For the show?
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LOL I knew someone would say that. But than again, a lot of our desi marriages are pretty special themselves. Some of them might as well equal divorce.
Stops- we’re going to need to talk about the business of hugs before we meet.
Demi- these vows are on top of the Christian way of a marriage ceremony. Some couples do it while others don’t. But our desi people are not very expressive ( at least not in public). I have only been to one Pakistani wedding in which they wrote their vows for each other. So after the Imam was done explaining the point of marriage in Islam, they both exchanged vows and than the Imam proceeded with the Nikaah. And than Dua. It was truly beautiful, I must say.
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I think vows are cute, but I'd find them really odd in a desi wedding. I guess we desis still aren't used to lovey-dovey expressive couples..
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^Lol, forget vows....I've seen imams create an ambience of awkwardness in weddings with some of the content in their speeches.
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Well honey I say it is YOUR day, so do whatever you want :):)!
Though I don't know how Rbear would feel about it. Somehow I dont think hed be up for it.
LOL I knew someone would say that. But than again, a lot of our desi marriages are pretty special themselves. Some of them might as well equal divorce.
Stops- we're going to need to talk about the business of hugs before we meet.
Demi- these vows are on top of the Christian way of a marriage ceremony. Some couples do it while others don't. But our desi people are not very expressive ( at least not in public). I have only been to one Pakistani wedding in which they wrote their vows for each other. So after the Imam was done explaining the point of marriage in Islam, they both exchanged vows and than the Imam proceeded with the Nikaah. And than Dua. It was truly beautiful, I must say.
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why there is need 2 publicize it bride n groom can share between them only if they want :)
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desi-flavored vedding vovs! vov! vat an idea!
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wt bout prenup?
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I'd wanna do it. I think it's just super sweet. I can't however imagine it doing at my nikkah or at my mehndi/barat. Just probably would do it with just my close friends around.
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Vows aren't lame...just unconventional for us.
These days, anything goes as long as you pull it off with class.
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yeh goray log mayon kion nahee baith-tey?
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This really just made me LOL!
:k:
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You mean something on these lines :
“I Ali , take you my Zohara Jabeen, to be my lawfully wedded biwi / Aurat /zoja…
To be together and please don’t leave me in days of economic depression!
To have and to hold,
Even if your chicken Tikka masala grows mold and you smell like garlic and ginger on my return home…
I love you in richness and in debt, yea I am still paying the installment for the diamond ring , I got you on our 27th date ]
And cherish all moments since jab we met… and yea my femur and two ribs got broken by hands of your lovely da and two nikkay brothers ... salay kaheeN kay ]
I promise to love you through everything until the end of my days,
As long as you stay out of my hours and hours of cricket plays…