Ok i totally agree with the marriage is a union of two families… i say that my self BUT a husband and wife hold each others secrets… If i was in the stated situation, I wouldn’t expect him to blab how i am am in bed so i dont expect him to tell his whole khandaan that i was raped. The fact that society is out to make others look bad is so true THAT is why you shud help your wife and keep her secrets behind closed doors!
If my brother brought home a girl that was raped, i can imagine him telling my parents and my dad would be extremely proud of him. And that would be the end of it. NOBODY else will need to know.. Why would your aunties/ uncles need their noses to be invited into the most delicate of situations of your home?
Also, if you decide to stay married to her and it does go sour and you divorce, she isn’t expected to answer to anyone about not being a virgin anymore so she wouldn’t have to tell her 2nd husband shud she get married again. So in reality i dont think your ruining her life again, your giving her a fresh start… providing that you dont tell your khandaan that she is a rape victim