okay, the reason i said that is there are multiple reasons, a rape victim generally does not only have a “broken hymen” but she is scarred mentally and physically, on top of that she has already suffered at the hands of her family members and once she does marry into ( for arguments sake) my family everyone who finds out will come and question that and come up with accusations and she has to re live it over and over and over again. I would like to protect her as her man as much as i can but what i have seen is that these girls generally live in depression for a long time and when i marry a girl atleast the first 2-3 yrs i wanna live a happy married life. Now you call me selfish or someone who doesnt wanna take responsibility, well that is true and that makes me shallow and i know that.