Hypothetical, but serious question.
If you were with someone, be it dating/ engaged/ married/ what evs, and things ended between you and your significant other…*
(And by dating I don’t mean just killing time. I mean serious dating - potential life partner.)
Would you want to know if and/or when they moved on?
Would you expect them to tell you?
What if the tables were turned - Would you want to tell them or think they would want to know?
Why or why not?
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Hy-po-thet-ical!!
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vohii to kahaa…meraa pyaar jo hogaa vo bhii to hypothetical hai! abhii iskaa bhii yaqeen nahiiN k kabhii hogaa bhii yaa nahiiN! 
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d̳̹̠͖̰̗o̪̲̙̩̜ ̲̲̙ͅi͎̩̮ͅ ̩̹̖h͙͕͚̖̻a͕̞͍̰̹̱v̺͓̫͍ͅe͚̬̟̬̦̞͕͔ͅ ̩͚̺̤̩̫͖̤t̯͈̟̭̮̯̩o͎͚͙̰ ̙͍͔̰̣͔̣̦t͈͖̠̻͇͕̭y̮̱͇͚̻͉͕̰p͇͇e͚̯͈͇̠̻̩̩͎ ̯͔̗̰̰a̺̗̱͕g̬̳̼̳a̩̙̯̮̩̜̻͚i̦̲͖̥͖̰͕͙n̯̫̻̰̗͍̭̮͇ ̟̪̮̹͉h͎̗̬͎̞e̪̫̞̠̳̙r͕̝̟̪̪e̗̤̙̳̪͔̦̠̰ ̥͉̭̫̥̻i͖͈̰͕͙̼̯ͅn̝̘̘̼̣̞̬͈ͅ ̙̰͕̲̥ͅt͎̥͚h͕̱̲͎̰e̫͙̻ͅ ͖̦͙̠̖͕̘̖͖t̤̲̮͇̣̭̦̲h̝̥̤̘͚̬̝ͅr̪̗̜̹͉͈̪̬̺ḛ̙͚͖a̜̦̯̙̙̝͙d̖̻̻͔ ̱͎̭̼̯̼t̼͖o͕̭̟o̤͉͖̝̮ ̤͚n̗͇̩͉o̯̪͓̟̟̻̮̻w̹͇͎̼̤̮̱ ͚̖̘͓̥̥͚̩ͅ:̰̪͎͉̖͚͕P͔̱̭͙̳̤̥̠
yes
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y̠̥̻̜̩͎̰̗̦͙̥̝̝̦̹̲o͙̫̮͓̩̮̝̭u͈͎̗̜͉̫͈͙͙̤̟̪͈͙̻ͅ ͚͕͔̥̞̱̟a̦̻̳̩͍̦̟͙̦̖̪̰̗͍͎͓l̙̞̤̹͙̟̜̼̮̰̞̫͈ͅr͙̙̲̤̘̖͓͕̯͕ͅe̳͍̤̦̘a͓̩̪̱̱̠̙̘̟̜̼̘ͅd̞̼̩y̖͉͇͈͓͔̗̲̤ ̪͕̥̠͓̮̼̖g̠͉̤̫̬̳͇̙̖̩̰͕̲̙o̥̳͎͕͔̥͕͚ͅt͕̞͇̪̹̬̯͚͈͚̳̱̻ͅ ̙͕̰̥̱̰̺͎̰ͅm̞̣͕̬̭͕̠͇y̝̝̤̠͎͎̘̹͕͈ ͖̻͕̙̼͖͙̟̭̪̗ͅr̻͔̞̻e̮̩̫̥̮͚s̰̜̩̪̙͎̰͎̻̗̖͖̰͔̻̞̰̭̫p̼̺͙̹͕͇̩̗͔̖͙o͍̲͙̥̫̱̞̫̹̬̺̟̬̩̙̪̞̱n̫͉̦̬̣̼̪s͎͈̥̦͍̭̮̜̱̣̹̱̠e̖̫͓̞̯̱͚̥͎͎̳͓ͅ ̤͖̤̬͖f̣̙̳͙̖̞̪̣̹̠̥̼̻ͅo̰̯̬̖͕̮̝͓͖͈̩̞̪̬͎̻̟̮̼r̲̮̤͍̼͎͉͔̬̣̹͚̼͕͙ͅ ̯͍̟̰͙̫͙̖̜̝t̥̼̳͇͖͉̩̩̥̻̞h̜͓͓̭̥̖̥̳͍̻͈̭͈̰̙ͅi̟̬̣̮̮̫̫̝̖͓͉̹̻͉̤̳͎̹̣s͙̺̥̩̘̱ ̤̣̝̰͕͖̤̹q̱̹̥͇u͎̲̯̹̠̥ͅͅe̲̺͔͓s̬̥̞͇̳̲̪t̩͕̬͎i̗̜̫͙̼̟͓̺̬̝̮͍ͅo̙̱͓̲͕̥͍͉̲n̦̘̹̻͙̮̻̝̳̙ͅ.̖̬̲̘̫̫͚͚̖̯̠̫ ̞͉̼͉͕̦̘̥͔͇̳̠͖̭̱̹ḍ͙̝̞̦̜̘͖͖̝̼̺̹͓͚̘̞̜o̻̖͈̮͈̗̘̗̰̳̱̰̭n̥͉̣͎̭̖̯̜̱̘t̘̗̭̙̰͔̹̤̘͚͉̞̲̣̙̮ͅ ̘͚͔̖̰͉͔̗̻͎̞ͅw͔̳̪͍͙̩̘̳̹a̩̤͍̮̞͓̦̖̭n͖̥̗͚͉̞͈̗̩̝͚͍͖̩̠̬̭t̩͙̖͓ ̥̗̻̟͎̠͓̰̣̩̟͚̙̟̭i̼̯͙̻̥̙̳̦̭̣̖̣̮͚̘t̝̜̤͕̝͎ ̻̝̹̠͙̠t̠̘͕̞͎͔͕̤͙͙͕͚̹̰o͙͓̠͍̞̹͕͈ ̰̮̠̖̜̙̳̝̬̟t̠̟̹̮͚u̠̜̦̪̘͓͇r͚̝̟̯͚̦̜̦͕̰̞̰͉ͅn͚̪͉̣̞̫̦͔̹̹͈̝͙͉̹͕͉̰ ̫͈͚͚͎̗͙̞̦͓̖̳̠͎̼ͅͅi̙̲̩̤͉͈̟͕͍͍͚͇̘̱̙̻̹̱̫n̞̯̹̮͕̥͈͉̫͙̖̩͉̲t̟͇͔͚̯̤̻̳̟̲o̟̥̜̮̣̜̪ ͍̜̘͓͎̟̦̭̲̣̟̲̤a̺̟̝̙̰̹̤̻͓̗̹̤̬̠͈̳͈ ̟̥͕̥̦̘͚͚̼ḷ̮͙͓̗̖̜͈̳̤͉̜̥͍̖i͓͖̣͍̱͉̰̺͙f̘̦̦̯̦̗͖̦͕̮͖͍̳̲̼͉e͙̺͈͚̝̮̼͎̰̥̲̭͚̜s̭̪̜̺̳̮͓̱̼̣t̼͇̱̦̖͉͓̰̫͍y̥̼͈͉͇̝̪l̬̥͇̘͈̣͓̹͎̫̫͕e̮̬͚͙̠̙̮̻̹̳̫̟̩̹̠̪ ̹͈͉̙͉̹͙̰͕̱̘̣͓̪͖ͅt͚͕̫̞͚̗̤̻̜͔̼̤͉͖̲h̰̹̯̟͙̰̹̜͇͓̼̘͓̱͕̖r̮̲͖̻̙̻̖̳̠̘̖̼͕ͅe̝̝̝̟̟̼̻͉͓͖̙̥͕ͅa͖̠̳̝̰̲̤d͕̩͚̟̳̦͓̘͕̬͎͍̻ͅͅ ̱̼͎̜͈̩̠̺̞̮̰͙̮͚̣̮̬̗ͅ
Re: Would you want to know?
If the relationship ended on friendly terms then yeah may be but I don’t think it is expected of you to tell your ex all about your love life and it would be awkward if they questioned you about it.
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before you can answer any of those questions you would have to ask: did the relationship end badly or on good terms? are you still friends after the relationship ended?
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I don’t like to behave like deewar se lagi chhipkali and doing jasoosi for someone I myself let go
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Scenario: if your relationship ended on good terms :
Would you want to know if and/or when they moved on?
-I wouldn’t “want” to know, i dont stop people from sharing anything they want to but I would never ask or try to find out myself
Would you expect them to tell you?
-nahin I wouldn’t expect them to reveal something so personal… however, kuch logon ko aadat hoti hai ex’s ko nayi bf/gf ke baare mein bataane ki ..woh samajhte hain isse ex bf/gf jallenge 
so i guess if he was that kind of person I would expect that he would tell me sirf kyunki woh jalaana chahta hai but ppl dont understand that the ex usually doesnt get jealous simply because there is a reason why you are exes
What if the tables were turned - Would you want to tell them or think they would want to know?
-no, i dont think it’s any of their business
Why or why not?
-just as his private life is not my business so mine isn’t his
Scenario: if your relationship ended horrible:
Would you want to know if and/or when they moved on?
-I wouldn’t really care under such circumstances
Would you expect them to tell you?
-i don’t think there would be a way for them to tell cuz we wouldnt be in touch
What if the tables were turned - Would you want to tell them or think they would want to know?
-not at all
Why or why not?
-if the relationship ended on bad terms there is no reason for me to contact them
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Everyone but me appears to have understood the ALWAYS ON SCHEDULE MM. I don’t understand what the punctual lady means by " would you want tonknow when/ if they moved on after relationship ended".
If relationship ended, wouldn’t you know? My head is spinning - feels like I am standing on the rotating platform next to sink in MM’ s dream house.
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Its natural to want to know. the question is whether you would do anything about it.
I guess if i was the dumper…i wouldn’t wan’t to know..
if i were the dumpee…i might.
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Lol, what if jasoosi had nothing to do with it?
Say, for example, you heard through a mutual friend that your ex was getting married. Would you want to know to whom? Or would you prefer the past stay in the past and nothing about them be shared with you?
Soutie Uncle. I was asking if you would want to know if they moved on, matlab agar ap jin k saat thay, apka vo rishta khatam ho geya. Agar vo kissi aur k saat relationship mein hoN, would you want to know?
My Urdu isn’t that great, so if I’ve confused you more, I’m sorry 
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That’s the answer I was hoping someone would say
Alright, so it’s natural to want to know, so what would you do to know? Would you try to get the information? Wait for it to come to you?
And if and when the info does get to you, what is there that you can do? If the relationship’s already over, and they’ve already moved on, is there anything that can be done?
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Assuming I got the original question right…
Asking question(s) does not guarantee clear/honest answer. But one can try.
In the end it all depends how much you are interested in that person and willing to let go of his/her past.
OR
Willing to divulge your own info if asked.
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I think its natural that people want to know about the persons they have a relationship in past. If anything / news comes in your way its ok, but trying to spy on someone and want to know each and everything about them means you didn’t move on. So I would personally opt for being detached to the possible extent.
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Good question!
So what difference would it make if the relationship ended on good terms or not? Why would it change the answer?
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Valid points. I pretty much agree. :k:
As far as the “bf/gf” jallenge" stuff. OMG I don’t get why people do this. Because if the ex gets mad, they get upset at them for caring. If the ex doesn’t get mad, they get mad at them for not caring 
Alright so wouldn’t tell them, but what about if they found out from another source and questioned you?
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So, even though you expect a vague answer, you would still ask. Interesting
Why would you want to know, though?
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waisay, yeh jaan ker kia hhu ga ??
but i would want them to live happily , 
and i would want them to know that i live happily as well
maybe cant say ,