One thing I don't understand is why wearing a hijab will earn more respect from the opposite sex? Most of the Pakistani girls I know, married or unmarried don't wear hijabs (they don't go round in bikinis either) does that mean they should be respected less?
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IMO, headcovering has less to do with 'covering' and more to to do with the identity and unity(of Muslims) so that maybe why we get more respect by Muslim men. By the way, just because I wear hijab I get disrespected, criticized, discriminated and percieved as a narrowminded person by most non-Muslims and some Muslims too. Should I ask WHY?!
^ sadzz you don't wear scarf, right? Tell me how bad people treat you because of you not wearing it.. I mean, it can't be worse than how hijabans get treated, or is it?
look at Munni's thread about hijabis...how much worse can a woman be percieved or treated by her own fellow muslims??
^ the grass is always greener on the other side...
actually its not being about treated worst than the other... just being treated bad and judged is wrong.. no matter what u look like or what you wear....
i do get people judging me when im with my hijabi friends.. and its not pleasant.. cus i dont like my faith being questioned...
as i always say... jsut cus one person wears a hijab or beard doesnt mean their faith is any better than someone who doesnt...
hear what people have got to say... but dont let it control you or mock you...
sadzz, it is the easiest to judge a person by his/her appearance...:)
and yes, it is about being treated worse than the other..I won't get into details but I'll only say we not only get judged but also get mistreated and harmed more often than you guys do!
see CA no one has it worst than the other... i could give you many examples of where ive been told my faith is nothing compared to my friend who wears a hijab... and not that im going to say my friends faith is bad... but me and her both know where we stand when it comes to religious obligations..
no one has the right to judge u by just what u wear... and no...i dont think one has it worst than the other..
IMO, headcovering has less to do with 'covering' and more to to do with the identity and unity(of Muslims) so that maybe why we get more respect by Muslim men. By the way, just because I wear hijab I get disrespected, criticized, discriminated and percieved as a narrowminded person by most non-Muslims and some Muslims too. Should I ask WHY?!
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It's great that you get more respect from muslim men by wearing the hijab, but I don't see why not wearing a scarf should lead to any less respect in all honesty.
And yes hijabans are getting discriminated against these days and it's a shame, but that's because
(a) people in the west genuinely dislike the hijab
(b) muslims ain't flavour of the month for several reasons, 9/11 being just one of them.
Mr Xtreme, your two reasons are one and the same. Anyways, I know why these people discriminate hijabis and I was not really complaining but trying to prove my point and my point is people always judge!
I don't understand why you guys don't understand why non-hijabis recieve less respect than hijabis. Well, let me explain the reason
What you guys are asking is similar to asking :
why do people doubt if a policeman is a policeman when he's not in his uniform?(before he shows his ID)
why do people assume I am a doctor if I am wearing my doctor sister's hospital coat?
why does a professor get less respect when he's not wearing a suit and tie? why do people assume he has less degrees?
why do students assume a female professor with russian accent is less knowledgable about chemistry course she's teaching when she has PhD in the subject?
I'm not going to say that hijab is a Islamic dress code but you guys know that Islamic "sharia" has prescribed it. So when people look at a hijabi, in their mind they automatically assume that she follows Islamic rules.
Let me share with you guys another example, in my high school we were going to see a play in theater for our literature class and 2 days before we were gonna go my teacher invited the guy who was an actor and also the director of the play. So on that day, he showed up in our class to talk about the play. We all noticed his hand was disabled...he couldn't move it AT ALL. It was pretty sad for all of us. Well, after 15 minutes of discussion he says "you guys must be wondering what is wrong with my hand..." he smiled and he sat down on a desk and said "actually...I can't move THIS hand" (he moved that hand)...lol...And at first we were all confused about what just happened but then he moved it again...And he asked, "did you guys assume that I was disabled?" and guess what our response was....So basically his point was that "nobody knows you better than you do but everyone will judge and assume what you are and what you do".... :)
I hope it makes sense to you guys now. People really cannot 'not' judge you WRONG unless and until they have known you very well or spent significant amount of time with you so don't expect them to "judge you right". Man, you guys have to study communication, psychology, linguistics and other humanities courses to understand how a human brain really works. :D
sometimes love dosent happens after marriage too … if it is arrange marriage …no ur not being silly , its very normal to think like that …why is there always Othres who want us to change …yeh its all good about wering hijab but is there no one who can accepet others as they are ..why ppl want others to change after or before realtionships…?