would you take relationship advice from

[Reha]

Re: would you take relationship advice from

@Ezio

No, that’s just something we tell the divorced people so they won’t feel bad. Political correctness.

The fact is, being divorced does mean they failed to make their relationship work. That is exactly what it means. Only exception is the when girls are forced into marriage by their parents. But when two consenting adults take the plunge, they have to make it work. If they can’t then I sure as hell won’t be knocking on their doors for relationship advice, something they have failed at themselves so miserably.

It doesn’t mean they failed to make their relationship work at all. It means they tried but if two people are a bad match, they are a bad match no matter how hard you try to shove them together. You have one life…no one says it should be spent with someone you don’t want to be with. Not even Allah swt says that. So no, its not a failure at all.

You don’t really have to say or not say certain things to make divorced people feel better. Chances are, nothing you say will hurt them more than what they already have been through…you’re giving yourself too much credit here.

@Ezio

The desis back home haven’t caught up on the divorce fad yet. Pakistan has a very low divorce rate. Even with their lack of opportunities to judge compatibility they are doing pretty darn good.

But that is exactly the kind of luxury most ABCDs have, they can get know their partner, they can date, heck even live together. So if they can’t stay married, they obviously don’t know jack about relationships.

They can get to know their partners, dating depends on the family and people but no one I know has lived with their spouse before marriage. And since being painfully blunt is the new fad here…its stupid to live with your spouse before you are married to them.

No matter how hard people try to mimic the real thing by pretending to be married and playing house…its not the real thing.