Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?

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It seems that he still has a bit of place in your heart, which is confusing you in making an obvious firm decision in this matter.

My honest opinion is to totally ignore him, even then if he keep insisting then warn him that you would call the police if he ever called you again. Why ? Because any communication with him in present would be very dangerous for your future relationship, incase you decided to marry anyone.

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move on move on move…:mad:

purh purh ke aajiz aa gaye houn…

easier sed then dun…:hoonh:

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If I ignored him for two weeks or more, I dont believe he will try to contact me anymore. So I am not concerned about that.

Yes, I do have some feelings for him still which is why I prefer to cut off contact. But then theres the other side of me that thinks, well, he wants to remain friends so why not? Remaining friends is one thing, but messaging me that he misses me is what I find strange. Although I am not saying I will remain friends.

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It seems to me that he is potraying himself asa victim...U know as he hasnt done it before etc...please dont let him make u feel obligated to "rescue"..him as it can get alluring...be honest with ourself..I know u feel really hurt that he rejected you and you are hoping that he may come back just to soothe your feelings of hurt...but if you isolate that ...do you really think that you would be happy with someone who doesnt or cant make up his mind if he "wants you or not",,think about the situations when the choice he makes can really make or break you later in the relaionship.Its better that you think the things thru and come to a conclusion irrelavant to the fact of his "wanting" you or not.What is it that** YOU** want..not anybody else.

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As you've described it, no, I would not.

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Sorry to hear about it.

Don't make any decisions. It is very new, take some time off to think clearly.

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Ask, actually I am not desiring that he comes back. He has said its over and I take his word for it. Allah does what is best, and I honestly feel that way.

I'm just trying to decide if I should honor his request for friendship or not, for his sake, not my own. I can continue ignoring his messages as I have been doing.

I've been through quite a few rishtas by now that I dont take too long getting over such things anymore. I've just never had a rishta say no to me and then ask to remain friends and message me that they miss me.

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Let him miss you, you should move on. Being frens with him won't solve anything and there isnt any need either. Sorry to hear about your rishta..

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Why carry along with you a spark which can anytime light fire in your future house. If he MISSES you than it means that he has FEELINGS for you which can anytime become so intense that it might also increase the presently minor feelings INSIDE you (for him) at anytime in future when you are married to someone else. THAT would become a very difficult time for you. It would be better to select one boat instead of placing one foot on one boat and another foot on another, in that case the maximum chances are that you might fall in between the two boats.

The following confusions (contradictory statements) could prove very bad for you and your future husband.

[quote]
Yes, I do have feelings for him
[/quote]

[quote]
I am not saying I wish to continue being friends with him
[/quote]

[quote]
he wants to remain friends so why not?
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munnniiiii…:(:(:(:(:frowning:

im sooo sorry to hear that…i know its hard to move on, when uv jus come out of relationship…sweety, how else can we tell you to do the best thing?..

we’r all here to make u feel better n to talk about it if u want to…lisun…time is a great healer…u need to find summit else to occupy ur mind with it…

at times like this women go round seeking for comfort and end up with sumone else…:nono:

Munnii please be strong and hang in there, ignore him coz theres no point being ‘jus’ frends…the woman in us always tries t ofind the Mr. Right and to settle with him…:frowning:

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*Would you stay friends with your broken rishta? *

No

Jis shehar jana nahi uss ka rasta kyon poochain?

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I dont find my statements contradictory at all.

been explained - now edited

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wah wah wah kiya baat ki hei aapne...wah wah

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Kindly also keep in mind that it might not be a good feeling for your future husband to know that you still consider someone as friend with whom your rishta was previously broken. Though it might not always happen, but devil does get a fair chance of puting suspecions in innocent people's mind no matter how positive they want to think. (in such cases)

Why even let a new husband face such a situation. You would be telling him that it is all over with the previous person yet you would be telling him that he is now just a friend to you !?!?

Edited: Now I understand, I hadn't read your last post before writing this.

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Munni I am sorry to here about your rishta and you are emmotional right now.But best way is to say him no and don't answer his text messages or calls.

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Beleive it or not, I have exlained this entire thing to the person. He said he understood. Which results in the current confusion.

I think I will just continue to read what he writes but I wont respond at this time.

Perhaps the messages will go away after some time.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. smile

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Now I am confused. Previously you said that you never responded to his series of messages, now you say that you have explained the whole situation to him, but he doesn't understands.

Kindly forgive me if I misunderstood. Is it that you previously explained to him the whole matter and presently you are not responding to his messages ?!?

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Yes, I explained this to him previously when he called it off and he said that he understood.

Since then he has been emailing me and msging me, but I have not responded.

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My humble opinion (which might be wrong) is that kindly don't even read his messages. Having spent sometime with you he might know which things you are sensitive to, and at any stage due to extreme emotions / frustration he might write anything which you might find disturbing / hurting. Secondly it won't distract your attention from your other activities in life. At times when we read about anything from time to time, it does engage a part of our mind in thinking over it, which might affect it's efficiency. Also reading them might make it a bit difficult for you to immediately give up the feelings you already have for him.

A quote I once read helps alot for anyone who faces such situations in life.

" Though the heart might weep at times for what it has lost, the soul shall always smile for what it has found"

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dear Muni,
it will nice to be of contact to know that he is doing fine.
for he violated your respect and worse, wanted to appear all self justified in doing so, it is a moral test for you to let him realize his moral test on his own.
but, make sure that he is not cheating on his wife, who he cheated when he left you for her for what ever reason.
men are very insecure creatures in themselves.
women are indeed their necessity, be it even TEMPORARY when they reflect their vulnerabilities as if you are the only one they want to be with - even though their FALSE lies fall flat on their faces - but please know that women are never important to men.
so, you just improve them and leave them to their devices.
it will be a surprise to see someone like that come to uplift his guilty inner self and then fully absorb the shock of having disregarded your honesty and care that you would have otherwise accorded him.
best,
Dushwari